SexyPrime, a blog by Susan Crain Bakos

ASK AUNTIE SUE: Reader Questions on Vibe Dependency, The Marriage Factor--& "How do I tell my wife she's too fat for sex?"

 
Auntie Sue's legs, photo by Trent

 

 

Often I get a batch of questions on the same topic—all within hours--concerns inspired, perhaps, by something in the news.  This past week I heard from many women—and some men—about her “vibe dependency.”  That’s a myth; and I will bust it.

When women express concern about “over-using” vibrators, they are often expressing fear of sexual pleasure.  We distrust pleasure (especially for women) so much in this Puritanical society that arguments against it, often disguised as concerns about The Relationship, are abundant.  Men’s issues with vibrators are rooted in their fear of battery-operated ‘competition.”  As I’ve said before, no toy can replace a living, breathing man.  The vibe is not your competitor, gentlemen; it is your sex toy too.

To the questions—

 

Q. “I only reach orgasm in masturbation.  For several months, I’ve masturbated with the big Hitachi Magic Wand.  Now I can’t orgasm without it.  I haven’t been in a relationship in a few years, but recently started seeing a great guy.  I am faking orgasms with him.  What else can I do?”  Alicia, Nebraska.

A.  I love my big Hitachi Magic Wand + Gee Whiz Combo. 

 
 

Without the attachment, it takes me from zero to orgasm in under a minute. 

You aren’t addicted to the Wand.  Rather you’re in the habit of fast orgasm.  You need to expand your vibe collection.  One vibe is never enough.  First, buy one of the rabbits, like Sexy Bunny, combining internal stimulation with clit-tickling rabbit ears.

 

Then try one of the designer external vibes, like my new favorite, Minna Ola,.  (See my review.) You operate Minna Ola (available only at Babeland) by squeezing her; and she copies the pattern of your squeezing, repeating it for you.

There are so many delicious deluxe vibes in the multi-speed category—many waterproof so you play in the shower.  Start on a low, slow speed and enjoy the gradual build-up.

Add vibrators and other sex toys to partner sex.  Showing him your new toy is an easy way to introduce the concept of mutual play.  Turn it on and put it in his palm as you run through the pleasure modes so he can see what this toy can do.  Ask him to use it on you.  Keep the interaction playful.

Stop faking!  Never tell him that you were.  Take what you need to reach orgasm, including cunnilingus and manual play.  Claim your pleasure; and you will also delight him.

 

Q. “My first marriage was to a man; now I am married to a woman.  I had the same problem in both marriages.  Before we’d paid off the wedding, I’d lost interest in the sex.  My wife worries that I am a closet heterosexual, wanting to be with a man.  She cries we're in 'lesbian bed death.' What can I do to reassure her—because I really do love her—and also get my mojo back?”  C.G., Savannah.

A.  I love your question, Babe, because it illustrates a basic truth:  Gay, Bi or Heterosexual—we are more alike than different when it comes to long-term relationships.  We think we’re falling in love when a new relationship leaves us constantly desirous of the other.  That’s not love; it’s lust.  Love comes along later, as it has in your marriage.

Nan Wise, creator of The Desire Curve, calls the top of the curve, the height of desire—New Relationship Euphoria (NREU).  Created by a potent cocktail of brain chemicals, NREU lifts us from our Desire Set Points (the amount of sex we normally desire when we are not in a new relationship.)  After eighteen months to three years, the body has become habituated to the lust drugs—and our desire levels return to their set points.  (Read about The Desire Curve in The Sex Bible for Women.)

Some people are so depressed at this slide back to normal that they keep dropping down into the pit of low or no desire.  That may have happened to you.  So.  What can you do to bring your desire level back up, at least to normal?  Some ideas--

Just have sex, even if you are not “in the mood.”  Arousal often precedes desire in women.

Mix it up.  Add sex toys.  Erotica.  Porn DVDs.  Share fantasies and role play.  Add a little kink.  Anything “new” boosts your desire level.

Acknowledge the elephant in the room.  Read this Q/A to your lady.  Realizing that you are experiencing an entirely normal fall-off should help both of you relax and enjoy one another again.

Cuddle up together and watch “The Kids Are All Right”, one of 2010’s best films, currently playing on cable, starring Julliane Moore and Annette Bening as a midlife lesbian couple struggling with marital issues not unlike yours.  Like your question, the movie reminds us that gay, bi or straight, we all face the same relationship challenges.  In the end, the women surmounted the obstacles because they love each other deeply. 

 

Q.  “My wife has put on 35 pounds in the past year, after losing her job.  I’ve tried to get her to exercise with me and, since I do most of the cooking, I plan nutritious low calorie meals.  She eats junk food all day and gets up in the night to drink cola. The weight gain is creating health issues for her; and I suspect is a negative factor in her job searching.  But the biggest problem to me is the effect it’s having on our sex life.  She is ashamed of her body and avoids sex.  I am not aroused by her and rarely initiate sex.

“How can I tell her she’s become almost too fat for sex?  She’s so sensitive on the subject of her weight,” Arthur, American ex-pat living in Italy.

A.  Dear Arthur, if you tell her she is too fat for sex, you may never have sex (with her) again. 

Take her in your arms, tenderly hold her and have a frank discussion with her about the weight gain, focusing on the negative health effects and her loss of confidence, in job hunting and in bed.  Ask what you can do to help.  She may be defensive—or even jump up and run crying out of the room.  You have initiated the dialogue on this difficult but important subject.  Stand your ground; keep talking to her without lecturing.

I sympathize with your frustration.  Frankly, I wouldn’t be interested in sex with a man who has a basketball gut.  When one partner gains a lot of weight while the other stays in shape—there often is sexual fall-out.  I don’t have the magic bullet solution for you, but I understand.  Stay in touch.

 

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SexyPrime's ULTIMATE CUNNILINGUS GUIDE--From M

 
Photo Credit: The Sex Bible for Women

 

Michael—M, the AssMaster—says, “Cunnilingus has been my continuing obsession since I first read a compelling piece of cunnilingual erotica at the age of twelve.”

Who better to write SexyPrime’s Ultimate Cunnilingus Guide?

How to pleasure a woman from M—

As a Committed Cunnilinguist, I LOVE pussies.  If you don’t love the pussy, how can you be good at providing oral sex?

I love the visual variety, the shapes, the aroma, the taste, and the texture.  I love how they are as individual as faces, each with distinct personalities.  More than a receptacle for my sexual desires, the pussy is the Gateway to the Goddess—and the single best evidence that there is a god.  Treat it with reverence.

With that attitude, you won’t think of cunnilingus as foreplay—or, worse, the necessary “work” you do to get her wet and ready.  Focus completely on what you are doing with your lips and tongue and fingers and toys.  Pay attention to her reactions.  While you are giving head, that is where your head should be.

Every Woman is Different, Every TIME is Different.  No matter how successful your oral efforts were in the past, they won’t work every time for every woman.  Be prepared to modify your approach based on her reactions.  Let her body be your guide.  I said BODY, not voice.  Verbal instructions from her may be confusing and unhelpful, but the body is ground truth.  Pay attention.

 

ULTIMATE CUNNILINGUS

 

• Slow Down!  Many women need a lot of stimulation to reach orgasm. 

 

• Less is More.  Can you describe the best fellatio you ever received?   It wasn’t given by a woman who could suck golf balls through a garden hose.  The oral genius licked and teased, building up your anticipation.  She may have used strong suction or the deep swallow at points, but she increased your arousal by degrees, employing not only her lips and tongue, but also hair, hands, face, nose, and eyes!  Visual teasing through eye contact during fellatio is powerful.   

Apply the same style that turned you inside out to pleasing her.  Don’t go after her clitoris using your tongue like a belt sander.  Lightly lick and tease along her labia, inner thighs, barely inside the vagina.  If she is comfortable with this—and many women enjoy it—lick her perineum and anal area.  Make her beg you to lick and suck her clitoris. 

 

• Add Focused Clitoral Stimulation.  When she wants an orgasm, she will want you to focus more intense stimulation on her clit.  Experiment with different strokes to find what works for her.   Some to try: 

1. Flick the tip of your tongue across the tip of her clitoris.
2. Alternate running the tip up and down the sides with lightly flicking it across the sides of the glans.
3. Put your lips around her clitoris and very lightly suck.
4. Circle the tip of your tongue around her clitoris so that you barely touch it, making her beg for more.
5. Place two fingers in a V around her clitoris and gently press down as you lick, suck and flick, using the strokes that work for her.

 

• Add Fingers and Toys.  Use two fingers to stroke her G-spot while licking and sucking her clitoris.  Or add a G-spot vibrator from Babeland.

 

• Add anal toys.  Insert a vibrating butt plug (again from Babeland) into her well-lubed anus while continuing to lavish oral attention on her clitoris, labia and perineum.

 

Extra Tips—

Choose a position that allows you free use of your hands.  Raise her hips with a pillow, or wedge pillow or position her with ass at the edge of the bed/sofa/ottoman/table.  Or have her on top riding your face which also gives her more control.

Talk to her.  Many women have had negative experiences with cunnilingus.  Encourage her to tell you what she wants—and doesn’t want.

 

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THE DIRTIEST BOOK YOU'LL EVER READ--& Vibe Relief

"...Once Chilli had gotten herself buckled in, they were lifted up into the center of the Porndecahedron.  Dave tapped a button his headrest and started watching.  There were movies above them and below them and on all sides; and all the soundtracks merged and mingled and were confusingly present, although some people muted all but one of them or overlaid a music track.

"'So this is it, huh?' she said.  'She looks like she's enjoying it.  Oh my goodness, that's a lot of sperm.  Don't you find this all a bit overwhelming?'

"'Hell, I could probably handle 24 screens,' said Dave..."

from House of Holes, a book of raunch (Simon & Schuster) by Nicholson Baker.

 

Nicholson Baker, author of many novels, is perhaps best-known for Vox, the 1992 novel about phone sex, the hot sex practice of the day.  The main characters meet on a phone sex party line.  Monica Lewinsky--or so it was reported--gave President Clinton her copy of Vox, purchased at a Washington D. C. bookstore.

Baker has done it again with House of Holes.  I'll bet Bill has a copy.

In the first sentences of the short first chapter, Shandee puts on her lipstick and heads to Geology 101.  By the end of the chapter she is holding a man's severed arm.  But don't feel badly for him.  He willingly traded his limb for a bigger penis in a "crotch transfer."  They are reversible.

This is the dirtiest, funniest, most original novel you will ever read.  A gleeful literate raunch-fest, the book has been written off as porn by some critics and hailed as brilliant by others.  Writing on Slate, Katie Roiphe says it is a "darker, stranger, funnier and more complicated book than the attention will imply."  She's right.

Imagine going down the rabbit hole and instead of finding Alice and her cohorts, you are in the middle of the Heironymous Bosch painting "The Garden of Earthly Delights" come to life--and then some.  This is a Wonderland for grown-ups where every sexual fantasy can be made true; and some fantasies are on the dark side.  Who needs Alice?

Do you like porn?  Baker proves that words can be as highly arousing as porn videos--in fact, even more so.  Better yet, this is a literary novel.  No need to feel guilty about reading it.  And you can join the smart dialogue on what Baker is saying (or not) about the role of pornography in modern society and its impact on male and female sexuality.

"If you're going to write about sex, Baker says, "do it completely."

When Chilli takes off her shirt and expresses her intention to masturbate to a film of herself masturbating, you will agree with Dave who says,

"'Exactly and you'll enjoy it too.  Don't miss the opportunity to get serious on your entire cunt.  It wants your attention."

 

Whether you read House of Holes alone or out-loud together with your lover, I have the perfect tension-releasing vibrator for you:  Natural Contours' le Duet.  Candida Royalle, one of my heroes, is the creator of the Natural Contrours line, high-end sex toys, generally ahead of the competition in design.  Once again that is true.

You know I am not a fan of We, the highly-touted couples vibe, because it is too thick to be used comfortably in intercourse with a man who has a large penis.  Candida's le Duet is slender enough to work with any penis.  You can also use it for solo play.  This beautiful little yellow and black toy, both quiet and waterproof, stimulates the clitoris and the G-spot.  It's my new fav vibe love.

Buy the book, buy the vibe--and enjoy your own little corner of Wonderland.

 

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M presents The Weekend Sex Tip - The Wedge Pillow Basics

 

Hello, Sexyprime readers, it's Kimmie here!

If you live on the East Coast, you're facing some indoor time this weekend waiting for the hurricane to touch ground near you. Luckily, M has the weekend sex tip for you.

Michael says that you can change the sexual experience by adding 1. Bullet Vibe play and/or 2. A wedge pillow (above).

He’s right about that.  Here is--

THE WEDGE PILLOW BASICS by M

MOST sexual positions can be enhanced for comfort or variety of stimulation or to increase the odds of her orgasm with one simple change:  The addition of a strategically placed Wedge pillow such as the Liberator Love Bumper, one of several great wedge pillow choices available at Babeland.

Wedge Pillow Sex Tips:

1. The missionary position can be modified by placing the thick part of the wedge under her ass, with narrow end pointing up her back. This adjustment tilts her hips up for a better angle for either vaginal or anal penetration, permitting deep thrusting without her having to support her pelvis.

2. You can also modify the Missionary position by reversing the wedge, placing the thick end underneath her shoulders with the narrow end facing her buttocks. The reversal of pillow facillitates a slower lovemaking session, encouraging kissing and breast play. 

3. With the man standing by the bed with the woman on her back on the bed, place the thick end of the wedge pillow under her ass.  Now she is at an angle for deeper thrusting. 

4. In the Doggie position with her up on all fours, place the thick end of the wedge pillow under her waist.  She has comfortable support while he can still freely play with her breasts.

5. In the Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl positions, she usually does most of the work, thrusting with her thighs. P the thick end of the wedge pillow under his ass.  Elevates his hips takes the pressure off her knees and thighs. 

 

CHECK OUT THE SALE ITEMS AT BABELAND THIS WEEKEND, INCLUDING MINNA OLA, my new Vibe Love.

(See my recent review.)

 

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VIBRATE!--M's Tips on Using Bullet Vibes & A Sale At Babeland

 
Art Credit:  "Woman in High Heels" by natalieenka on Photobucket

 

Michael says that you can change the sexual experience by adding 1.  A bullet vibe and/or 2. A wedge pillow (next week.)

He’s right about that.  Here are his excellent tips for using the bullet vibe, the basic toy no woman (or man) should be without—

 

M:  “I like bullet vibes because they are small enough to use for delicate operations, can be used almost anywhere, and the cord that connects the bullet to the battery pack/controller serves as a leash for retrieval in case they disappear into a body cavity.

“My motto:  If vibrating it feels good, do so.”

The Dynamic Duo below is one of many great Bullet Vibes available at Babeland.  Advantages to this one:  two bullets; seperate variable speed, function controls; two long cords.

 

 

Six Top Bullet Vibe Tricks

1.  Nipple Play 

They are just the right size for teasing nipples, and often come with two bullet vibes on one controller, giving the option of one for each nipple.

 

2.  Intercourse Clit Aide

Convenient for teasing the clit and labia while engaged in intercourse, bullet vibes provide that often necessary and always appreciated direct clitoral stimulation.

 

3.   Emergency G Spot Vibe

Combine the Bullet with a few fingers to serve as a G-spot vibe when one is not at hand.

 

4.   Deep Vibrations

Insert the Bullet with thin cord hanging outside her vagina before intercourse.  The deep vibrations buzz her G spot and his penis as he thrusts.

 

5.   Anal Play

The Bullet is a nice size for both external anal play and insertion.  Anal teasing with a bullet vibe during doggie intercourse was what convinced my second wife to try anal sex after an unfortunate teenage experience with a boyfriend had convinced her that opening was exit only.

 

6.   Speed Play

Top bullet vibes have variable speeds and different vibration patterns.  Changing speeds and patterns rapidly can speed or prolong arousal, intensify orgasm—and create all kinds of new feelings.

 

CHECK OUT THE SALE ITEMS AT BABELAND THIS WEEKEND, INCLUDING MINNA OLA, my new Vibe Love.

(See my recent review.)

 

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THE PERFECT HOSTESS GIFT (&At These Prices, One For You Too)--Babeland's Flash Sale

 
Photo Credit:  "Sexy Weekend" by Bohem

 

The good house guest keeps the TV or music low in her bedroom after the hosts have gone to bed--and she doesn't flip on her Hitachi Magic Wand either.  I love my power vibes but they are not quiet and unobtrusive.  When you are a guest elsewhere, or for that matter have guests of your own, seek more quiet pleasures--

But with the new generation of smart clit vibes, quiet doesn't mean "tame."  You don't have to give up power to be discreet.  And they are controlled by intelligent microprocessors, meaning the controls are "intuitive", influenced and even programmed by your body responses.

Siri, made by Lelo, is a beautiful pink and white vibe with a beveled shape that perfectly cozies up to your clit on all sides, from any direction.  With six pulsation and speed options, intuitive controls and almost silent operation, Siri is a high quality designer vibe, something we've come to expect from Lelo--but incorporating their most powerful motor.  Moving elegantly from flutter to OMIGOD!, it's their best to date.

 
Cup it in the palm of your hand, press it against your clitoris--and make love to yourself.  I also love running Siri over my labia lips and inner thighs....delicious. 

Your beleagured hostess, who has received more than her share of jams with cutesy labels, napkins and scented candles and bottles of wine beloved by someone, not necessarily her--she will be grateful (even if she demurs and blushes) for a gift that acknowledges her sensuality and carnal nature.

Best of all, the Siri vibrator is 40% off at Babeland now.  Buy two.  Life is short, Babe.  Make pleasure last as long as you can.  And check out the other amazing sex toys on sale.

 

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IT'S HOT--You Need Waterproof Toys!

 
CLIMAX POPS!

I love these little toys--splashproof mini-vibrators encased in ridged silicone sleeves.  They give you a lot of bang for the tiny size and tiny price, special at $9.99.  I say, Buy one in each of the Babeland colors, hot pink, orange and blue.  You will love the feel of those little ridges gliding around your clit.

That is but one of the many waterproof vibes and other toys on the Babeland site.  If you don't have a pool, turn your bathtub into an oasis of cool--a few candles, a glass of white wine, some flower petals strewn on the water--and a new vibe or two.

Go to Babeland and search for "waterproof vibrators."  You are in for a treat!--

And speaking of special experiences, I've put off sharing The Beastly Man's confession until I can do some background research on the sex rehab program he spent time in. No authority except those selling sex addiction programs really believes in sex addiction.  It is not a recognized diagnosis.  But every man with financial means who gets into sex trouble seems to end up in a program.

On the other hand, something has gone wrong when a man has multiple Fake Name Facebook accounts and spends more time online than he does interacting with the real woman/women in his life. 

is that NoSex addiction?

 

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ASK AUNTIE SUE--Reader Questions on Traveling with Sex Toys, Missing Cunnilingus--& The Ultimatum: "Me or her vibes!"

 
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The most frequently asked question last week was—“How do I keep my vagina moist during pool sex?”

Water-based lubricants slip slide away in the pool or hot tub.   Use a good silicone-based lube like Sylk, Astroglide, Eros and others that stay slick, even during prolonged play in water.  (Check out the lubes at Babeland.) Drawback:  Silicone lubes are not compatible with silicone sex toys.  Read labels carefully.

More questions—

Q. “What are the rules on traveling by air with sex toys?  My girlfriend and I are going to the Middle East.  Will the vibes, flogger and cuffs get us be-headed?  Would a doctor’s note help?”  Ben, London.

A.  Recently the San Francisco Chronicle published a story on traveling with sex toys, quoting a Transportation Safety Administration spokesperson who said nothing about beheading or doctor’s notes.

Whips, chains, leashes, restraints, cuffs and vibrators are all OK, but remember—“An inspector’s job is to inspect.  Don’t pack the toys if you don’t want them inspected.”

Alas, they may be confiscated in one of the many Arab countries where sex toys are outlawed.  Check the laws before packing.  Worst case scenario:  Years in a horrendous prison with no access to beauty treatments, but likely not beheading.

Sex expert Carol Queen, who has traveled the world with her vibrators, says, “Vibrators are not the problem, shame about vibrators is the problem.”

Carry your vibes proudly—unless you’re going to Saudi Arabia or Kuwait.

 

Q. “My wife has a medical situation affecting the appearance of her vagina.  She no longer loves it; and she doesn’t want me to love it either.  Her doctor said cunnilingus is fine but she doesn’t want me going ‘down there.’  What can I do to persuade her?  I am missing cunnilingus,”  TJR, Mobile, Alabama.

A.  I would bet she is missing cunnilingus too.  I’m so sorry that her condition has left her feeling shamed about the appearance of her vagina—sorry for both of you.  Is she seeing a therapist/coach, a sex-positive person trained in sexuality (and preferably AASECT certified)?  If not, help her find someone.

Reiterate that you love performing cunnilingus on her, but don’t push.  Give her some time and space and concentrate on pleasuring her every other way she will let you.  For a one-time donation of $20, share Betty Dodson’s Genital Art Gallery with her.  The astonishing variety of vulvas should help her see that there is a place for hers too.

 

Q.  “I appreciate that you stand up, as you phrase it, for male sexuality as well as female—but why do you push vibratorsthe way you do?!  My GF has a drawer-ful of them.  She uses them when I am not around and tells me about her experiences.  Sometimes she asks me to use them on her while we’re making love.  I find that intrusive; and I fear her asking for them indicates she is hooked on vibrators.

“I gave her an ultimatum—The vibes or me!

“She said I’ll need a little time to think on that.

“What now, Queen of the Vibes?” –Alonzo, Sydney, Australia by way of Spain.

A.  I would have chosen the vibes.  So generous of her to consider your ultimatum.

Some men—you may be surprised to know—embrace vibrators and other sex toys.  They understand that most women need direct clitoral stimulation in addition to the thrusting of intercourse to reach orgasm; and they like being in charge of all that.  Many men also like to watch as they’re bringing her to orgasm, not once, but several times, in glorious waves. 

Yes, there are still men like you threatened by the vibrator.  They often say they fear her becoming (or that she has become) addicted to her toys.  Really, they are afraid they aren’t enough for her.

Alonzo, you are not in competition with her toys.  Nothing replaces the feeling of a real man in your arms, his flesh thrusting into yours, his sweat mingling with yours.  Vibrators do not have chest hair or broad shoulders or strong arms or beating hearts; and they cannot gaze into your eyes when you orgasm.  They do not kiss and caress.

The toys are wonderful!  Men are wonderful!  No contest.  Women want both.

Check out yesterday’s post on a new vibe and some special offers at Babeland.  Oh, the Minna Ola (only available at Babeland)! This little beauty is controlled and programmed by squeezing—and it remembers the pattern of her responses to the squeezes and replays it the way she likes it.  Order one.  You take Minna Ola in hand and pleasure your girlfriend.  When you are not there, she can experience the vibe as you gave it to her.  That’s hot.  Put your stamp on the experience.  Rescind the ultimatum!

 
 

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TOYS, TOYS, TOYS-- A Woman Can't Have Too Many Shoes, Handbags--or VIBRATORS!

 
Photo Credit:  "Wonder Woman" by Clarkent on Photobucket

 

I might have dreamed this new luxury vibrator Minna Ola, it's so perfect.  You squeeze one end to control pressure and speed.  The harder you squeeze, the more powerful the vibrations.  Minna remembers your responses.  Hit a button; and it replays.  (Don't you wish everyone had squeeze memory?)

At last, an instant replay a woman can really get into.

Bonus:  Minna Ola is waterproof.  Lie back in the shallow end of the pool or the bathtub and enjoy.

 Babeland will be shipping the Minna Ola—another revolutionary toy in the great big toy box of wonders--on August 1.  With your pre-order, you get free UPS ground shipping and a four ounce BabeLube natural.  The Minna Ola is exclusive to Babeland; you can't buy this ticket to ride anywhere else.

Can you believe the incredible wealth of choices we have in vibrators today?

With a line of high end sex toys that look like little pieces of art, JimmyJane is an industry leadeer in the upgrading of product.  Through the end of July, Babeland and JimmyJane are running a special promotion, Come for a Cause.

Donate $5 to SIECUS (Sexuality Information & Education Council of the United States) and receive a free Afterglow massage candle. 

Donate $5 to SIECUS and buy a JimmyJane toy for $75 or more and receive a free Iconic Smoothie vibrator.

Check it out on the Babeland site.

I can't wait to hear your experiences with Minna Ola.  You tell me yours and I'll tell you mine.

 

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20% OFF THE TOY OF YOUR DREAMS--From Babeland, Today

 
Photo Credit:  "Flor 14" by Lekka

 

I haven't put the finishing touches on a new orgasm technique for men and women to use--simultaneously--so I advise playing with toys and shopping for new ones to ease your disappointment.

In a special sales event ending today,Babeland is giving you 20% off any toy.  This is your chance to buy that luxury vibe and make the discount really count.

A few suggestions--

Jimmyjane Form 2

 
Hold this little bunny head in your hand.  Cute, huh?  You have no idea....

The vibrating ears surround your clit, giving Form 2 twice the power of other clitoral vibrators.  The flexible ears are fitted with four vibration modes and five power settings.  That's way beyond "cute."  Waterproof and rechargeable, this clever little sex toy is wickedly adaptable.  Slide the ears up and down surrounding your clit.  Use the eartips to tickle or flutter.

The only limit to how you can use Form 2 is your own imagination.

 

The Rechargable Mystic Wand is my personal go-to vibrator when I want a dozen or so orgasms fast and easy.

 
The description on Babeland's website is perfect:  "Pretty, pink, powerful workhorse."

Boasting a flexible neck that can target the pleasure, Mystic Wand has three speeds and three pulses.  I've never come just one with this vibe.  I challenge you:  Can you stop at just one?

 

Available exclusively at Babeland, Matryoska is shaped like a nesting doll.

 
The toy's velvety silicone curves hug your body.  You can put the five speeds and five vibrations anywhere you need them, from your clit to his balls or perineum.  Waterproof and adaptable for use in other countries, Matryoshka can even be inserted at the narrow end.  Now that is a versatile toy.

Those are my three luxury vibe picks for today--but go to the website and luxuriate in all the choices you have.

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