SexyPrime, a blog by Susan Crain Bakos

A NEW RABBIT IN TOWN--& A Political Insight

 
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New York City is a great place to be right now.  The city is full of visiting gay, lesbian and transgendered people rallying for the Gay Pride Parade, made especially joyous this year by the passage of gay marriage in the state's Assembly Friday night.  You don't have to be gay to be happy today.   Even the weather is in a magnificent mood.

I've been reading the political coverage of how gay marriage passed here when it has been defeated in other states.  People, there are lessons for us, especially Democrats who are frustrated with the timidity of our party.  Read "Behind Gay Marriage, an Unlikely Mix of Forces"on how Cuomo told gay activists they needed to stop in-fighting and get their act together and brought in powerful Wall Street money to shore up the Republicans willing to buck the religious establishment.  Then read "Gay Marriage's Unlikely Hero", the Daily Beast's account of how a former Bush insider turned gay rights advocate.

As Keith Oberman, the liberal commentator, says--With the Republicans pushing a minority New Religious Righteous Tea Party agenda down our throats and the Democrats behaving like wimps in response,  "We [the people] are the last line of defense." 

Let's get smart about how politics really work so we can be a smarter, tougher lineof defense.

But we can do that without surrendering our sexuality.  Babeland has a new toy, a little bunny you must adopt:  The Bullet Bunny

 
Simply slip the little rabbit over your bullet vibe and tickle your clit.  You can also insert the little rabbit, just like the Mama Bunny.  It's strong, waterproof--and portable.  Slip it into your bag as easily as Paris Hilton tucks that little dog into the crook of her arm.

Please.  I would rather have a Bunny in my bag any day.

(And don't forget, as I told you in yesterday's post, you will get a free Berman Venus G Spot vibrator and free shipping with any order of $100 or more.)

 

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THE PERFECT WEEKEND TO PERFECT YOUR ORAL SKILLS--Sex Techniques, a Babeland Sex Toy Sale and New York Makes History

 

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It’s Gay Pride weekend in New York City—a celebration made glorious this year by New York state’s passage of gay marriage last night at, literally, the eleventh hour.  At long last, gays in this state with its proud progressive history, can marry.  Governor Cuomo was instrumental in making this happen; and Mayor Bloomberg lent his public support early on too.  I am proud of our leaders, the gay activists who have worked tirelessly to secure civil rights for their community and my heterosexual brothers and sisters who stood with them.

Everyone in the state of New York can stand a little taller today because we have done the right thing—and, as the largest of the six states to legalize gay marriage, stepped up to a leadership role in this area of civil rights.

As I’ve said many times, women of every sexual persuasion owe a debt to the amazing lesbian women who launched the nation’s two premier sex toy empires, Good Vibrations and Babeland.  I admire the women behind both great franchises, but I have a closer connection to Babeland, with two Manhattan stores and one in Brooklyn.  Love those stores!  If you live in New York City (or visit) and you haven’t been there, you are missing one of life’s great pleasures:  beautiful toys elegantly displayed and smart, savvy staffs who can answer any question and lead you to life-enhancing products.  The Babeland website is fabulous too.

Through this weekend, Babeland is offering a free Berman Venus G vibrator ($24 value) AND free shipping with any order of $100 or more.

My recommendation--Omibod Better Than Chocolate

Skype-compatible Omibod plugs into your computer where it will move to the vibration of your lover's voice in an intimate chat-- or can be used in music mode like its sister, the slender Omibod vibe.  Trust me, you need them both.

 

And now an oral skills refresher course—

My signature sex technique, The Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs, is by far the most popular post on SexyPrime and led me to create the Sex Wardrobe Basics series.  The secret to success:  Learn the moves and mix them up each time, in tune with his responses.

Alas, I have never performed cunnilingus, so I turned to men and gay women in putting together the cunnilingus tips featured in my books.  (Look for them in The Sex Bible, The Orgasm Bible, The Sex Bible for Women—and The Little Book of Big Orgasm--all available on the left hand side.)

Some reader sex tips that have stood the test of many other readers trying them out—

Dave’s very popular Whiskey Dick Cunnilingus Technique

M’s Oral/G Spot Triple Play

Her Pearls, His Tricks—A reader tweaks The String-of-Pearls Seduction Kit

 

(For more ideas on cunnilingus and other technique areas, work your way through the category Sex Tip of the Day on the right hand side of the blog.)

 

 

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A SALUTE TO A 40 YEAR OLD TRADITION: The Gay Pride Parade

An image from Gay Pride Parade in Denver--the largest in the city's history. 

 

 

 

By proclamation of President Obama, June is Gay Pride Month in America.  Many cities have already held their parades and other observations and festivities.  The Gay Pride parade in New York City, forty years old today,  concludes Gay Pride Week here and is also the LGBT (lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgendered) community’s tribute to a city that celebrates diversity.  The theme of this year’s parade is “Liberty and Justice For All” –and the LGBT community means all of us when they say “all.”  We owe them a debt for our own freedoms.  Read last year's post:  "Thank Your Lesbian Sisters For Your Sex Life."

The parade starts at noon at 36^th and Fifth Avenue and ends at Christopher and Greenwich Streets. Nhoji, a singer from Guyana, will perform a new gay anthem, “The Gay Warrior Song” which he has already sung in places like Kansas City and Indianapolis.  Go, Midwest!  My straight and married niece Shawn, my Midwestern correspondent,  sent text messages last week from the parade in small town Southern Illinois where her gay pals declared her “the cutest, cute as a bug in a rug.”  Now there is a Heartland expression….

According to Nhoji, the gay warrior fights for “acceptance, inclusion, equality ”—and he fights for you and me too.

Constance McMillen, the Mississippi girl, who stood up and asked if she could take her girlfriend to the prom, will be one of three grand marshals.  A pariah in her hometown, forced to finish her senior year at another school— she’s been to the White House, interviewed on TV and received a $30,000 college scholarship, presented by Ellen DeGeneres—and more.

Arthur Finn, co-chair of Heritage of Pride, which organizes the march and other related events. said, "She's really a courageous young woman who's been willing to stand up for herself and all of us.”

The other marshals are Lt. Dan Choi, an openly gay National Guardsman, and Judy Shepard, mother of hate crime victim Matthew Shepard.

"A lot of people sometimes think that the fight's over," he said, "It's not over, and these three exemplify it."

McMille said she is "happy to be part of such a great celebration.

"I don't care if people know who I am, as long as they know "there was this girl that did stand up.’"

If you are in the city today, stand up too.  And no matter your sexual persuasion or gender, take pride and pleasure in it.  Lots of specials at Babeland this weekend to help you celebrate.

 

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IT'S GAY PRIDE WEEK IN NEW YORK CITY!: Thank Your Lesbian Sisters For Your Sex Life

Photo:  38th annual Gay Pride parade in New York City, 2007

 

When I moved to New York City over twenty years ago, AIDS was cutting a swath through the gay community.  I volunteered for a while with God's Love, We Deliver, delivering hot meals to home-bound AIDS patients, mostly gay men.  That some of these dying young men were not wanted back by their families across the country was America's shame.  That they were cared for by New Yorkers was the city's pride.  So I felt from the beginning that Gay Pride was shared by all of us, gay, straight or bi; and I love the annual parade.

 

As a woman, however, I--and you!--owe a special debt to lesbian women for our sex lives.  Lesbians have been in the forefront of the modern women's movement since its inception.  They have marched and protested and organized and argued for legislation that would first legislate and later protect reproductive freedom.  Without the lesbian women who started Eve's Garden in New York City, Good Vibrations in San Francisco and Toys in Babeland, we would not have the wonderful range of sex toys available to us today.  Nor would we be able to access good information about sex toys online.

 

Launched by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah in 1993 as a catalog business with website following three years later, Babeland opened its first store in New York City in 1998.  Their mission from the start has been to promote and celebrate sexuality, provide an open and fun environment accepting and tolerant of all kinds of sexual expression, encourage personal sexual empowerment--and offer workshops for community education.  My friend Cheryl Means Berry, sex toy entrepreneur and inventor of Talking Head vibrator and Vibrating Sponge among other toys, says, "We have high end vibes today thanks to Babeland opening up the market for high quality toys.  Without Babeland, women would still be selecting from a small range of products."

 

Thanks to your lesbian sisters, aunts and mothers--you can buy a glass dildo that is a work of art or a high end vibe or pearl handcuffs or any number of delicious toys.  (Go to Babeland and shop the current sale!)  

 

Yet gay and lesbian people still do not have equal rights in this country.  In most states, including New York, they can't get married.  Just as there should not be a state religion in the U.S., there should not be a state sanctioned sexual lifestyle, i.e., heterosexual marriage.  Gays and lesbians have stood up for the rights of all people.  Why aren't more of us standing up for them?

 

If you know your history (as sadly too many of us don't), you know that President John Kennedy made an historic speech in divided Berlin in 1963, a speech that was widely considered a turning point in the Cold War.  He had just come from Checkpoint Charlie, the most notorious of the crossing paths where many Germans lost their lives trying to escape from East Berlin to freedom in West Berlin.  Standing in solidarity with all Berliners, he said:

 

"All free men, wherever they may live, are citizens of Berlin, and therefore, as a free man, I take pride in the words:  Ich bin ein Berliner."

 

I am a Berliner.

 

If you are in the city this Sunday, watch the Gay Pride Parade go by and raise your fist in a salute of solidarity.

 

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