Photo Credit: "The Slow Kiss" by Tina Phillips
Men give good sex tip too. I'm handing the sex advice over to them today. First, as promised, Todd Wooten tells men how to do it the lesbian way. Next, Corey Silverberg on "How To Kiss," taken from his wonderful newsletter, About.com:Sexuality--and, finally The Boy Toy shares the art of the anal flirt. (It does work, guys. He's used it on me.)
HOW TO BE A LESBIAN TRAPPED IN A MAN'S BODY by Todd Wooten
While on an all-guy vacation in South Beach a few years ago, I was adopted by a pack of Lesbians. They enjoyed watching me eat (I’m a big eater), and I enjoyed the free meals and listening to their conversations. They had all been married to men at one time. Unlike most men, I didn’t ask why they became Lesbians. That would’ve been as ignorant as them asking me why I’m Black. We are who we are.
I asked, “What are the differences between straight men and gay women in the bedroom, from foreplay to orgasm to multiple-orgasm to post-orgasm?” They appreciated my sincerity and spilled their guts. I
THE KEY POINTS
1) Know thy partner.
a. Ask her what she likes.
b. Explore her body and identify every sweet spot (i.e., erogenous zone), including the ones she may not know she has like toes, back of the knees...
2) Slow Down.
a. Do everything, starting with kissing and caressing, at half the speed you’d prefer to do things. By slowing down, you can at least create the illusion of being an attentive lover.
b. If she wants you to speed things up she'll let you know, but you can develop a better cohesion when you start slow and gradually speed things up together, versus starting fast and trying to work backwards.
3) Touch softly and carry a big stick.
a. Touch softly speaks for itself. Men are often guilty of H & H: being Heavy-Handed and in a Hurry.
b. Carry a big stick means: If you have a particular strength in the bedroom, or something you do well that she truly enjoys, then use it, but use it judiciously.
HOW TO KISS, by Corey Silverberg
"Kissing and being kissed is such a subjective experience and expression of our individuality that it’s useless to try and develop a list of universal kissing dos and don’ts," he says. He agrees with me that you can tell how a man (or woman) will be as a lover by the kiss. NEVER go to bed with someone whose kiss doesn't thrill you.
Hit the link above to read his fourteen kissing tips. I especially like number five, Lean in, and Pause. It's a nice little tease.
FLIRTING WITH THE ANUS
From The Boy Toy
“What do I have to do to get a name on SexyPrime?” he asked.
Darlin’, I’m protecting your identity. And keeping you my secret.
“I have good sex tips.”
He does. Here’s one of several from the past year. Look under Cougar Chronicles and Sex Toys for more. Now, his tip of the day
“If she isn’t ready for anal intercourse, but does enjoy a little anal play—introduce one lubed finger (or two) inside her anus while you're fucking in the side by side and facing position. Her outer leg is over your outer leg. The position gives you perfect access to her puckered hole. You cup and squeeze her ass, maybe give it a slap or two if she likes that—and then insert the finger(s) when she’s highly aroused.
“I have finger cots—little plastic gloves for your fingertips—in the nightstand drawer. You never want to take a finger out of her ass and put it into her pussy. Spreads bacteria."
He is so much fun....................
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