SexyPrime, a blog by Susan Crain Bakos

THE LAST POOL TOY OF SUMMER: The iLusting Vibrator

Babes, you've got a month, probably less, of swimming pool weather left (unless, of course, you live in the South or Southwest). Time to buy the last pool toy of summer! My idea of "swimming" is floating on a chaise with champagne flute in hand, under the moonlight.  (No direct sun!)  Back when I lived in Illinois, summers included trips to the lake; and I floated in an old tire.  The man in my life made frozen daiquiris.  We had jazz playing on the dock.  If this toy had been around then, it would have been out there with me too.

The iLusting Vibrator brought back old memories because it looks like the vibe is floating in an old tire 

when it's on the charging station.

A friend in St. Louis, where it's been hot, reported her experience with the vibe:

"I love this little toy!  The shape fits perfectly in the palm of my hand while I hold it against my clit.  With three speeds and five vibration patterns--it keeps up with me.  Last night, I slipped out to the pool at midnight with my toy.  (X was out of town on business and the kids are at camp.  Remember when I locked the bathroom door for an hour on Saturdays, my only alone time of the week?)  Doing the Dead Man's Float in the shallow end with my waterproof vibe was such a treat.  

"Alone, I felt my orgasms building and then rippling outward from my clit--not just the momentary explosion.  What better place to ripple than a pool?  I came, kicking my feet and whooping for joy.  The stars seemed to hang a little lower in the sky.  What a perfect night.

"You were right about sex toys.  I LOVE YOU!"

BUY A TOY AT BABELAND--AND GET A FREE SILVER BULLET

Babeland will give you a free silver bullet with any purchase through August 15.  The bullet vibe is one of life's essentials.  No cosmetic bonus with purchase ever gave you as much pleasure as this little one will.  Put it in your make-up bag and travel.

ARE YOU SLEEPING WITH SOMEBODY'S DADDY?: Give Him A Toy

Photo credit:  Babeland

The Babes at Babeland know what Daddy likes:  gadgets.  Men love technology; and Babeland is celebrating men and their gadgets for Father's Day weekend.

The Boy Toy files his first sex toy review on Tenga Squeeze Play, a pre-lubed masturbation sleeve that gives a man a better ride than his hand can do.   (Bonus:  it's disposable.  No messy clean-up. Something else men love.)

"I ordered Tenga and tossed it into my bag before flying out to L.A.," he says. He makes those punishing cross-country trips at least twice a month.  "At the end of a day of meetings, I was exhausted.  I went back to my hotel room, stripped, showered, turned on some porn--and pulled out the Tenga.  I popped the top and slid it down over my erection.  It's shaped for easy holding.  Nice. The suction control works with slight fingertip pressure--as easy as flipping channels on the 'mote.

"The inside of the sleeve is textured.  That was a good surprise.  It feels like your cock is getting massaged while sucked at the same time.  The sensations were stronger than I thought they would be.  It was a fantastic hand job, much better than my own hand--and second only to yours, Babe."

He brought back a toy to use alone or share, the Nexus Rider, made from black silicone, both sleek and hefty, truly a toy for big boys.

It looks like a curvy anchor, doesn't it?

The contoured shaft caresses his prostate while the anchor-shaped base holds the toy in place.  But here's the fun part:  Soft nodules stimulate his perineum if he places that part inside his anus--or your clit if he shares his toy during intercourse.  And it has five speeds!

He says, "I was a little nervous about putting it in my ass, but with a lot of lube--no problem.  I've never felt anything like that. My first perineum orgasm.  Awesome!"

I add:  "It looks awesome too.  He ejaculated, aiming at my breasts--but his ejaculation was so forceful that we got the pearl necklace effect."

Next time, he says, he'll let me play with that one too.

Go to a Babeland store or the Babeland website--and choose a new toy for the Daddy (or the Boy Toy) in your bed.

GIVE YOURSELF A SEXY PRESENT (ON SALE!) FOR MOTHER'S DAY--Even If You Have To Lie And Say, "It's For Mom"

For two days, May 9 and 10, Moms get a 10% discount off sex toys at Babeland.  

If it really is for Mom, you might want to go with the Sensuous Soak Kit or JimmyJane's Afterglow Candle or the very discreet vibrating sponges.

For you?  How about a waterproof vibe.  Summer is almost here.

SO DISCREET, SO NAUGHTY

I wrote about going out in the city with my friends Cheryl and her guy Mark on their way from St. Louis to South Africa a few weeks ago.  (Cheryl is the inventor of my favorite vibe, Talking Head:  "This rabbit talks!")  They're back home now; and I'm encouraging them to write about their travels.  Cheryl and I are also working on a proposal for a series of workshops that will vibrate your world.  (Coming to your city soon.)

Speaking of vibrate, she sent me a package of sex toys created in partnership with Empire Labs, Inc. based in Portland, Oregon.  What fun! 

Ideal party gifts include:  Clone-A-Pussy, a do it yourself molding kit for making two chocolate copies of your favorite vagina; Vibrating Dildo Kit to make an exact vibrating rubber copy of your favorite penis [Oh, how I wish I'd had several of those over the years.]  The Tongue Vibe, which glows in the dark and feels rather amazing; Real Touch, a vibrating penis which does feel like the real thing, skin.  

The box included a little finger vibe and a tiny vibe to put on your tongue (or his) while performing oral sex.

But my favorite items:  Vibrating Foam Sponge and Vibrating Mesh Sponge.  They look exactly like the expensive bath sponges sold in luxurious packages in little boutiques.  But they have powerful vibes inside.  I took mine to The Boy Toy's apartment and let him give me a bath.  Delicious.

Try one first on sudsy nipples.  Then work your way down your body and let the sponge tantalize your pussy before putting it to work on your clit.  Each sponge gives you a different tactile experience.  So you have to buy both.

Trust me:  They're worth it and so are you.  In these difficult economic times, little self-love gifts like this one lift the spirits and keep us feeing sexy.  You can even leave these sponges on the the edge of the tub because they're entirely discreet.  Yet naughty.

Rather like The Boy Toy when he goes off to work in suit and tie.

Share Your Toys With The Boys!

The Boy Toy touched my heart and pussy--well, actually my heart is in my pussy--when he returned from a business trip to L.A. with a sex toy for me. We had such a good time with the toy that he bought another. [Read the Cougar Chronicles] Now toys are part of our game.

I tossed Pleasure Tops, my new vibe from Babeland, into the tote bag when I visited him this week.

Like The Cone, an amazing pink vibe, Pleasure Tops is cone-shaped, but it has two vibes, one in the body and the other in a little projecting “spout”. Imagine a big fat rabbit with one powerful ear. You can sit straight down on Pleasure Tops or lie on it or come up with your own imaginative approach to the design. The lower you go down the shaft of the cone, the stronger the vibrations and greater the sensations. Bonus: Both hands free!

I lowered my body onto Pleasure Tops as I took The Boy’s cock into my mouth. In no more than a minute, we were rocking, my sucking in time to the vibrations, his hands in my hair, pulling, twisting.  His moans mingled with the sound of the vibes. I came before he did.

Amazed at the quality and variety of vibrators, he was also envious.

“Is that vibrating cock ring the only thing you’ve got for me?” he asked later as we were lying in bed, examining the toy like two research scientists. He added, “Not that I don’t like the ring.”

So I pulled my Lelo Gigi out from under his pillow where I’d left it.

“Pink?” he said, looking askance at me with those sparkling blue eyes. “You’re using a pink toy on me?”

“Close your eyes,” I said.

This is how you do what I did to him:

• Start on low-speed. Run the vibrator along the shaft of his penis, then press it against the base, the scrotum, and the perineum.

• Guided by his response, experiment with higher speeds and firmer pressures.

• Don’t apply more powerful vibrators directly to his penis. Hold it against the back of your hand as your are holding the shaft of his penis. Move his penis up and down with your vibrating hand.

Also buy him a vibrating cock ring. The silicone ring attached to a vibrating torpedo and battery pack looks a bit strange, but you will both love the way it feels.

• Place the stretchy cock ring around the base of his penis with the attached torpedo turned down to stimulate his perineum--or up during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris. Either way, he feels the vibrations around the base of his penis.

As I was getting dressed to leave, the Boy was sitting naked in bed, laptop open to the Babeland site.

“Couples’ sex toys,” he said, smiling in satisfaction.

More to come I am sure…….

Who Plays With Vibes?

We know that I do--and I believe that you are not enjoying your full orgasmic potential if you don't.

Cory Silverberg devotes this week's issue of his on-line newsletter About.com: Sexuality to vibrators.  As always, he has great information, salted with a bit of cranky opinion.  (You remember Cory:  He isn't a big fan of sex advice books and sex advice book authors, but I love him anyway.  Sigh.  It's not requited.)

To my U.K. readers, the electronics manufacturer Philips has released three products in its new "Relationship Care" line.  I would love to get my hands on the Intimate Warming Massager.  (Anyone like to bring that back from London for me--or, better, take me there to buy it?)  The photograph of the little massager held in a man's hand is hot.

Here in the U.S., Babeland is celebrating their fifteenth anniversary with an All Star Sex Toy sale--15% off the top-selling toys,including, of course, the Hitachi Magic Wand, the ultimate big girl's toy that I wrote about in a recent Cougar Chronicles post.  (And free gifts with Sasi and Form 6 vibes, both of which I heartily endorse.)

Cory laments--[He is always lamenting something]--the dearth of good sex behavior surveys not funded by companies that have an interest in selling sex toys.   In citing some survey information on sex toy use, he reminds us that the information is "not scientific" and comes from "the people who are trying to sell us more vibrators."  From my perspective--and I come from a science research background--their sales agenda does not make market studies suspect.  Marketers are good researchers who may end up knowing more about their subjects than behavioral researchers do. 

From "Who Uses Vibrators?" in the newsletter:

"The most common statistic found across surveys was that between 20-27% of people surveyed said they had used a vibrator.  Some examples of survey research include:

• In Shere Hite's famous survey (1976), only 1% of respondents said they had ever used a vibrator.

• In a 2006 Elle/MSNBC.com survey, a whopping 40% of respondents said they had used a vibrator.

• In two surveys, 15-17% of women were under 20 when they first used a vibrator; 50% of women were in their 20s; 22-27% were in their 30s--and 8 to 10% were 40 and older."

An interesting tidbit:  The majority of studies find that vibrator users are overwhelmingly white women in relationships.  Yes, vibes sell very well in the Bible Belt.

The Boy Buys Me A Big Toy

"Want to play?" I asked him.

"Where are you?"

"In a cab, leaving a dinner date,"  I said and he laughed.  Oh, yes, there's humor in that.  One guy paid for dinner; the other gets laid.  "I can be there in fifteen minutes."

"Excellent.  I have another new toy for you.  A big one.  Rebecca inspired me."

Oh, no.  Rebecca's story of the big toy isn't exactly inspirational.  (Read the three parts in order if you haven't read it yet.)  I was expecting a big dildo; and I had my polite refusal all ready to go.  Nobody, not even me, uses something like that on me.

Ah, but The Boy, fresh from a quick shower, surprised me with a Hitachi Magic Wand--and its brand new attachment Off With Your Head.  I, of course, have my own Hitachi, but not the special head.  I was intrigued.  And he's so cute when he flips switches and reads directions.

"Lie down," he said, unbuttoning my black silk shirt as I stepped out of my skirt."I'm going to give you a full body electronic massage."

Using the Hitachi's original head, he massaged my neck and shoulders and back, taking all the tension away, then turned me over and ran the vibe up and down my legs and stomach, playing with my inner thighs until my insides felt like molten silk.  Uhmmmm....I wanted him to put that sweet head against my clit and bring me to orgasm.  But he turned off the switch and changed the heads.

"The platinum silicone head warms to body temperature," he said.

I put some Liquid Silk on my fingers and played with myself while he changed heads.  This black one has vertical ridges for vulva stimulation on one side and a round ridge for clitoral stimulation on the other.  His eyebrows coming together in concentration, he turned the toy back on and applied it with skill.  Oh, yes, very nice...the vibrations not as strong as with the original head...but more diffuse and, yes, very nice.

He kissed me long and hard while I came.  And came again.  Little beads of sweat fell off his forehead onto mine. I came again as he held the wand between his thighs, in place against me while he played with my breasts and caressed my hair and face--the motion of his body changing the pattern of the vibrations. 

Here's the thing with Hitachi, the big girl's toy.  You can come over and over with virtually no down time between orgasms, unless you need to move the toy away because your clit is momentarily too sensitive to touch.  You know that feeling of helplessness as the desire for orgasm turns into the thing itself and you whimper and give yourself over completely?  That feeling goes on......

He turned off the toy and entered me and--I don't know why--I was transported back thirty years to an affair I had with a much older man.  I remember the orgasms he induced with the tip of his rapidly flicking tongue and how I felt holding him as he thrust inside me later, as if I were holding his past too.  With The Boy, I was briefly holding his future, the man, the lover he would be to someone very special, perhaps very soon.  There is something so poignant and touching about holding a man who is not yours.  He is a momentary gift.

And to tell you the truth:  The delicious feelings of desire also made me long for yet another man, someone I've been with only once really...and won't let myself think about again.  I fantasized that big dick inside me; and I was moaning over him.

Orgasms.  Even as I lose myself in them, I feel connected to men and to deep longings, past and present.

(Check out the Hitachi Magic Wand and all its attachments at Babeland.)

 

Returning The Borrowed Shirt--and Playing With "We"

The Boy called and asked, "Can you come over and play?  You haven't seen the new toy I bought you in L.A."

I did need to return the white shirt I'd borrowed the last time we played. 

"Will there be champagne?"  I asked. 

There was champagne.  The toy was wrapped in shiny purple paper and tied with rows of thin pink and purple ribbons.  Festive. The Boy had put a little gel in his black hair, spiking it up.  Sweet.  His blue eyes were bright, glinting naughtily.

"A We Vibe!" I exclaimed.

(How like him.  The Boy is into building "partnerships".)

"It's the first and only internal vibrator designed to be worn during intercourse," he read from the box.

"Are you going to put it in?" I asked; and he grinned.

"Eventually."

I slipped out of my blouse and skirt and black lace panties, leaving on the lace-topped black thigh highs and bra.

"Don't take your shoes off," he said, as I was about to kick them off.  "I love those snake-skin stilettos."

I laid back on his bed, legs open wide.  Kneeling between my legs, he poured a little champagne from his flute onto my clit.  The bubbles felt sexy.  He poured a little more.  It ran down, a rivulet following the curves of my inner lips.  He licked it up, using broad strokes of his tongue.  A little more champagne, a little more tongue.  Then he settled into the familiar rhythm of cunnilingus, alternating his two best moves--lips covering clit and surrounding area and gently sucking--with the fast, teasing flick of the tip of his tongue across the tip of my clit.

I was near orgasm when he stopped and reached for a packet of lube.

"Fuck me," I said.

He picked up the We and inserted it, the cup at one end of the C-shaped vibe over my clit, the other one inside my vagina, surrounding the G spot.  (The manufacturer promises that the vibe's "slender profile leaves room for penetration."  More on that later.)  He licked and sucked my inner thighs--one of my secret hot spots-- while I rocked to orgasm on We.

"I want your dick," I gasped.

I love my vibes, but when I'm with a man, I want that dick.  I wrapped my legs around his neck--careful not to gouge him with my heels--and he thrust deeply into me.  I loved the sensations of the vibe and the thrusting, but the faster and harder we moved together, the more the "slender profile" seemed to get in the way.  He reached down and pulled it out--and we finished the old fashioned way with my hand between our bodies.

As I was licking champagne off his nipples a few minutes later, he said, "I like the toy.  I should have more toys for you here."

Once again, I left wearing one of his shirts because we spilled some champagne on my ivory silk blouse.  Damn.  I just have to go back again to return this shirt, don't I?

(The We Vibe is on sale at Babeland this week--for less than I am sure The Boy paid--along with a lot of other goodies.  Has anyone else tried We?  I'd love to hear your experiences with it :)

The Quickie Threesome: You, Your Lover and SaSi

Women sometimes challenge me when I say that Quickies can work for them too.

"But it takes so long for me to get aroused."  "I can't go from zero to 100--well, not without a Hitachi Magic Wand."  "Quickies are just for men; you're lying if you say they can work for us too."

Yes, you can come in a Quickie!  (What's wrong with using the Hitachi briefly to take you from zero to 50 or 60 or 70 before you start?)  Today, however, put your Hitachi aside--and I know how difficult that can be--and let's turn this Quickie into another kind of threesome.

First. spend a few intimate moments with my new friend SaSi, the vibe with "Sensual Intelligence Technology."  Translation:  You play with it and it figures you out, programming itself to please you better next time in your response pattern to its movements with little rotating nubs. 

SaSi provides undulating clitoral stimulation--in a rhythmic fashion that feels like oral sex.

You like it hard and fast?  Slow and easy?  SaSi gets it.  You don't even have to tug it's ears to direct its head.

Bonus:  you can get a free bottle of massage oil if you purchase SaSi at Babeland now. (Break your SaSi in before using it as the warm-up act for your Quickie.)

Sex toy reviewer Ann Whidden calls SaSi "the best thing to happen to sex since tongues."  I like that line.  Who doesn't need a smarter tongue in her life?

If you want a "spontaneous" Quickie, slip into the bedroom or bathroom while s/he's putting the kids down or is minutes away in a cab--and use your SaSi to give yourself that first orgasm via cunnilingus or bring yourself to the edge, if that is your preference.

Now you are ready for your lover to drive it home--or give you that second big O.