In doing thousands of interviews with women (and men) about sexual behavior all across the country over the past two decades, I have concluded that too often we limit ourselves. (And I'm not just talking about partner choices.) We hang out with people who are just like us; we read about people who are just like us; we go to blogs written by and for people who are just like us.
Babes, you can learn a lot by reading and listening across the generations--and, for that matter, across the full range of sexual experience. We have much to tell each other.
For example, this week I discovered Sue Katz: Consenting Adult, a terrific blog! She writes for aging Boomers. But she is an Auntie Mame offering spirited comments and opinions on matters affecting younger women too, like Botox and cosmetic surgery. (Girls are Botox-ing at 30 now.) She is such a fresh and original voice.
I also went to The Happy Ending Lounge downtown to an "In The Flesh Reading Series," organized by Rachel Kramer Bussel. If you live in Manhattan, you must get to one of these free monthly readings of erotica. (The next is July 17; mark your calendar.) Most of the readers and listeners are in their 20s and 30s. But whatever your age or sexual persuasion, you will enjoy the readings.
I chatted with the legendary erotica writer Cecilia Tan and with some Dirty Girls, including Aimee Herman. She sold me a book and CD; and I will get back to you shortly with a report.
Don't limit yourselves! Read across the generations and sexual persuasions. And, yes, a straight woman can get excited about gay porn too.
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