Dr. Nsekuye Bizimana, the Rawandan author of The Secret to African Love, published in French only, believes the “ancient African technique” kunyaza “holds the secret to female orgasm.”
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Practiced widely in Central and Eastern Africa, or so he says, kunyaza, “the magical caress,” is so effective that most women have multiple orgasms and even an ejaculation. Or so he says.
The head of a research institute dedicated to kunyaza, Bizimana, wants “to help women all over the world by teaching men how to give them orgasms.”
My great pal Steven Otero at Sexy Spirits sent me an article about the doctor’s claims. Being open to possibility, I tracked down his directions for performing this technique that will “rouse the sleeping fire in your woman.” After tapping the clitoris with the head of his penis, the man uses it to tap, slap or rub her vulva. Really.
Here it is:
- Hold your penis between fingers and thumb.
- Use the head to tap your partner’s clitoris, labia and vaginal opening.
- Move the rhythmic tapping or slapping around the vulva in circular or zigzag movements.
- Start gently, then get more vigorous as your partner becomes more aroused.
- [Use saliva if lubricant is needed.]
- Variation: Rub the head of your penis up and down, side to side or in circles over the whole vulva. Still holding your penis, make similar movements with it inside the vagina.
“The secret of the tapping or slapping action is that it gives deep clitoral stimulation,” he says. “The little bump we think of as the clitoris is really just the very tip – a bit like the head of the penis. The whole organ carries on deep inside the body.
“Kunyaza stimulates the part we see, and the inner part, the part we don’t see – if you do it forcefully.”
Doctor of what? I couldn’t find his credentials online.
Yes, there is more to the clitoris than the part we see, but it is not a little penis with the head outside and the rest inside. The clitoral nerve endings that go into the vagina will not likely be stimulated by tapping or slapping the vulva. Reading about kunyaza, I was reminded of the orgasm technique upon which Claire Dardone’s One Taste was based: repeated tapping of the left-hand quadrant of the clitoris. In her fairly successful efforts to brand One Taste as more mainstream, she has backed off the left-hand tapping—but just a few years ago she was preaching that doctrine at sex conferences and assuring listeners “it is science.”
You want science?
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