SexyPrime, a blog by Susan Crain Bakos

MASTURBATION MONTH: A Reader Has The Last Word

One of SexyPrime's most faithful readers has the last word on Masturbation Month.  David Thomas (Lotus Workshops) sent this:

 

"Check out this youtube video on a masturbation lesson, from the TV show Weeds.  It is great.  Every boy should have an uncle like this."

 

http://www.youtube.com/v/FWzOQTFwRBE

 

http://www.lotusworkshops.com

Who's Keeping Whom In Self-Love Check?

My pal Steve Otero at Sexy Spirits sent me an interesting article today:  "Sexual Healing" by Lauren Brande.  (Love this illustration with it!)

You have to love an article that begins:  "The Golden Girls were chronic masturbators."

In praising and supporting female masturbation, she cites the usual sources from Dr. Betty Dodson, the grandmother of self love, to Jamye Waxman, its youthful champion.  Yes, I too salute these women and add my voice to the chorus that says:  Touch yourself.  I send readers to Babeland to shop for vibes at least once a week.  And, look at the banner.  Is there any doubt where I stand?  Masturbation is empowering for her AND--

For him too.

The discussion on this blog the past few weeks has been about male masturbation, specifically men masturbating to porn women find offensive.  Many women don't like their guys masturbating to any porn, but especially the hardcore stuff.  (Sometimes they don't want him to masturbate at all, the logic being, He has me, why does he need hmself?)  I find a lot of that porn distasteful too, but I don't believe that being in a relationshp gives her the right to control his sexuality.  If he masturbates so much that he has no time for sex with her, isn't it time to look for a different partner?  Otherwise, doesn't he have the same right to self love as we do?

True, women often report, like Jamye, that they were sexually active for years before having their first orgasm.  She discovered vives, reached orgasm and found her cause in life.  That is a good thing

She maintains that 'people see female masturbation as "a selfish act."  Do women who complain about their guy masturbating see it the same way?  He's selfish if he prefers himself over me --ever.  What do you think about that?

In my opinion, the majority of the people who disapprove of masturbation, hers and his, are women.  I've yet to receive an eamil from a man who says, "I don't want my girl to masturbate."  They want to watch.

When we support masturbation and speak up for empowerment, let's remember who has been holding us down.  We have.