“His next story is about a patient with an amputated foot. He shows us the mapping of body parts in the brain and we can see that the region receiving sensations from genitals is neighbors with the region receiving sensations from the foot.
“’Makes you wonder about foot fetishes and tap dancing’, Ramachandran quips. The patient had described to Ramachandran how sex felt:
“His orgasm is ‘now much bigger than it used to be, Ramachandran shared with another neurologist.
“’It’s all in his head,’ the neurologist scoffed to Ramachandran.
“’Of course it is!’” Ramachandran rejoined with a totally straight face.
From Aditi’s review of V. S. Ramachandran’s new book, THE TELL-TALE BRAIN: A Neuroscientist’s Quest for What Makes Us Human (W. W. Norton)
Many people giggle at the very mention of “foot fetish,” two words that play well as a joke on almost any stage. The stereotype of the fetishist is a timid little man who doesn’t relate well to women. Foot fetishism is one of the most common fetishes, however, so the practitioner surely may be any man. Director Quentin Tarantino, for example, is rumored to be a “foot freak.” Certainly shots of women’s feet, sexualized, make it into nearly every one of his films. Remember Uma Thurman’s sensual barefoot dance in “Pulp Fiction?”
While some also fetishize shoes, many do not. (If you get involved with a foot fetishist, you want him to be so into shoes that he buys lots of them for you, right?) There is a difference between “partialism,” not dependent only on feet for arousal and ejaculation, and “fetish,” needing to see and fondle feet for arousal and ejaculation. More women probably understand and accept the foot man’s needs than ever before—though he remains a source of humor to the uninitiated.
The experts do say that foot fetishism alone isn’t abnormal behavior or a sign of mental illness. Sai Gaddam and former MIT researcher Ogi Ogas also reached that conclusion in the findings from their study published in the book A Billion Wicked Thoughts, the first massive undertaking in sex research since the Kinsey Reports. Read my review of this wonderful book, What Sex Surfing Says about True Desire.
But can acceptable, normal “funny” behavior become threatening?
In certain situations, yes.
First, the bottom line with true fetishists is that they will, sooner rather than later, want the Foot Job, which goes further than licking, sucking and fondling feet. It’s a hand job performed with feet; and the fetishist wants to ejaculate on those feet.
In “I did it for science: foot fetish” nerve.com, Tabitha Thatcher reported on her experience as paid object of foot worship. A craigslist listing brought dozens of responses. Here’s why she didn’t make it her second career--
"Over the course of my month doing, ahem, footwork, I saw a total of five men, and exchanged emails with several dozen. I soon came to find that they all wanted to jack off, and the majority of them wanted a "foot job." (With the exception of Paolo, the Italian guy in town for business who just wanted me to trample him in stocking feet, while, he fully clothed, supine, and gasping for breath, told me stories about his childhood. God bless Paolo.) A foot job is just what it sounds like. I, naively, hadn't been aware of the existence of such a thing. The very thought of doing that, besides making my stomach turn, made my feet begin to cramp. It seemed downright painful and, frankly, exhausting."
An angry foot fetishist who isn’t getting his needs met can become physically demanding, just as the “vanilla” guy who date rapes. As regular readers know, I had an ugly encounter like this with Fred Ebel. When he fired me as writer on a project because I would not consent to his demand, “Show me your feet!”—I asked for, and did not receive, an admission of guilt, an apology and a kill fee. I’ve freely written about him because if he won’t pay his debt, he can pay in public humiliation and, because he harassed me in front of witnesses, including two who made, and gave to me, cell phone videos of his angry tirade. (He even repeated the firing in a text message. Smart boy, Freddie.)
Second, the angry, demanding foot fetishist in the male-dominated sectors of the corporate world is as likely to thrust himself at your foot as his angry, demanding vanilla counterpart is to pull out his penis and use it against you.
Since writing about Freddie the Demanding Footman, I’ve heard from five—the fifth just this morning—women, past or present clients, similarly harassed and abused by Freddie, who conveniently never remembers his bad behavior. The women have asked me separately to help them “go after Freddie and AJG.” I have decided to help. Last night one of the lawyers in my life, Michael (M—the Assmaster), sent me case histories of sexual harassment suits involving foot fetishism.
Next, I will put the women in touch with one another, help them write their stories and find a lawyer.
Why do big companies often stand so firmly behind their abusive male executives--even Freddie whose daily conversations is peppered with complaints about his job, his hated boss and gloats over all the women he scores while traveling on business?
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