“Trinis are better lovers than American men,” the young woman from Trinidad said.
“Why?” asked a woman with a Southern accent.
Holding a glass of white wine in one hand and a stuffed shrimp in another, I said, “Wait! I have to write this down.”
I was standing near them, but not part of their girl group of four, at a media event. If we were all in some other profession, my rude comment would have led them to tighten the circle, pointedly leaving me out. They opened up. One held my wine glass, another ate my shrimp, while I fished in my tote bag for a pen and notebook.
“American men watch too much porn,” the proud Trini said, when I was ready to scribble. “They are boring because of the porn. All they want is head…”
“And anal,” the Southern girl interjected.
“American men are lazy,” she continued. “Back home, men do more things and part of the excitement is in finding new places to do them.
“Sex with a Trini man is wind and grind.”
Wind and grind?
Have you ever watched native Trinis dance to Soca music? The dance style is “winding,” something like dirty dancing, only with fast circling hips—making the hula look sedate. Translated into sex play set to music—“because the music is everything in our life; sex starts with music”—the Wind and Grind is an intercourse move that she, as well as he, can use to make the sex as hot as the island sun.
Though I’ve never known a Trini man, I would bet I’ve been with more American men than the young lady; and they were neither boring nor lazy in bed. Good sex move, Trini girl—but I take issue with your dismissive comments about my guys.
The Wind and Grind
Put on some music to set the mood and the pace. It doesn’t have to be Soca. Go with whatever beat makes your hips gyrate on their own.
Hips feeling a little tight? Try Rock Your Sex Life: Five Sensual Moves, quick and easy exercises to loosen hips and pelvis.
Tip: The waist controls hips; start moving at the waist and work down to hips.
- The winder should be on top—and start winding before penetration.
- The Wind: Imagine you are giving your partner a lap dance. Draw a circle with your hips, keeping back arched. Wind down, teasing with penis/vagina contact, wind back up. Repeat until the desire for penetration cannot be denied.
- The Grind: Draw a smaller circle with your hips. Imagine the typical up/down strokes as two equidistant points on the circle. Lean forward as you push down (grind); arch your back again on the upstroke.
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