Anyone can administer a birthday spanking.
Tie her spread-eagle to the bed, ice selected bits of her like a cake, alternate the warm licks of your tongue with the licks of your belt on her exposed inner thighs—and you have a birthday game—for ”vanilla’ people like us. No “safe words” and BDSM rules necessary because it is just a hot little game that we can abandon if it no longer seems like fun. Submission can be highly arousing, intensify intimacy—and lead to incredibly strong orgasms for the submissive.
Trust me: For a little pain, you can get a tremendous amount of pleasure--and feel so relaxed.
[NOTE: Obviously the dom/sub roles can be switched and/or the game can be played by two gals or two guys. As I am more drawn to the sub role and am hetero, I tend to write DS from that perspective. But the beauty of it is: Anyone can lick the chocolate.]
Instead of canned icing, buy Babeland’s Edible Body Chocolate—hands down the best tasting body chocolate ever. Krista, my product consultant, sent me a sample jar; and I couldn’t believe how good. High quality chocolate in a sex toy product--and it's all natural, vegan and fair trade? Only Babeland delivers that--and, for a short time, ON SALE.
If I were the Birthday Girl in this game, knowing my lover was enjoying the taste of chocolate and I wasn’t would be sweet torment the equal of his lash on my thighs. I would walk into the room selected for my punishment/delight wearing black lace thigh-topped stockings, classy stilettos, and thin leather straps defining my breasts like the outline of a bra—straps that he could adjust, making them tighter encouraging my breasts to swell and the nipples to stand up for him, adding another layer of delicious erotic pain to the “birthday cake.” Around my waist I would be wearing my Incognito Lash Belt—
conveniently on sale at Babeland—a fashionable belt that becomes a whip when I unfasten the silver-plated clasp. I would hand him the belt along with the body chocolate….
My heart beats faster and my breath comes quicker just imagining…
THE BIRTHDAY GIRL GAME
Have her lie spread eagle on the bed with her arms and legs a little further apart than is comfortable. Should she dare to protest, slap her exposed thighs, one good smack to each. (But don’t cut off her circulation.)
Blindfold her. Not knowing if she will get the warm tongue or the sharp lash adds to her excitement.
Instruct her neither to scream nor say, NO. Tell her, “You may moan, grunt and groan, pant hard—but you will take your punishment like a lady.” Focusing on “taking” the punishment gives her a sense of control. Gradually you will see her stop trying/being able to ride the waves of pain but surrendering to them. At that point, it won’t take much to put her over the edge into a special kind of ecstasy.
The object of the game: She must come in intercourse before you do--or receive further punishment.
- Decorate her; don’t finger paint chocolate all over her. Swirl the body chocolate around her nipples, bringing it up to peaks. Don’t spare the chocolate. Fill her belly button with it. Hold off on creating chocolate designs on her lower belly—because she’s going to sweat.
- With the tip of your tongue, indulge in small licks of the delicious chocolate. Is she pulling against the restraints trying to put her whole nipple in your mouth—or otherwise being not submissive?
- Pick up the belt (or lash) and strike her inner thighs, once each. If she merely winces, you know the following lashes can be a little harder. Gradually work up to The Gasp. She will gasp when the lash stings hard.
- Go back to her nipples. Clean one, suck and nibble it. Lick the chocolate out of her belly button as your extra treat. Keep it filled. Indulge yourself. Run a chocolate covered finger from nipple up her neck or down her belly--and follow with your tongue.
- Pick up the belt again. Alternate a stroke to each inner thigh, gradually increasing the force as the game goes on. How many strokes overall per game? At least ten, five to each thigh—but, depending on the implement and your skill and her appetite for erotic pain, she may be able to handle more, as many as twenty—or more?
- Repeat the nipple pleasure/torment, with fresh applications of body chocolate, until she is sweating and panting.
- Surprise her occasionally by giving her the lash when she doesn’t expect it, perhaps by two strokes to each thigh instead of one—or surprise her by spending more time on her breasts than she is expecting.
- Make designs on her lower belly and draw an arrow pointing to her clit. Lick the chocolate. Ask he if she would like to have her clit sucked. When she begs for that, pick up the lash. The last two strokes to her thighs should be harder than she expects, but not more than you know she can handle. A good dominant takes his submissive a little further than she would tell him to go—and he does it to her ultimate delight because he is carefully observing her responses.
- Loosen her bonds but don’t untie her. With clean hands, massage a little oil into the red lines you have drawn on her thighs. Using more oil, stroke her labia, stimulate her clitoris and use two or three fingers of one hand in her vagina. If she needs more arousal, use an internal vibrator, like the Berman Venus G, a slender wand that has pleasure ridges to stimulate the vaginal entrance while focusing mainly on the G spot. (No clitoral vibe, the easy way to orgasm, for her now.) When she's highly aroused, turn off the vibe.
- Mount her and ride her as hard as you know she can take. Pull her hair, twist her nipples, tighten her leather straps (if she is wearing them around her breasts)—quick rough gestures to intensify her sense of pain/discomfort and cause fresh jolts of brain chemicals to be released into her body, jacking up her arousal.
Whisper, “If you don’t come before I do, there will be a further punishment.”
If she practices The Orgasm Loop, she will come.
If not, well, maybe she won’t without the extra clitoral stimulation you are withholding from her--and also driving her crazy.
The resolution—and the submissive always wins big
Now that you have taken your pleasure with her, untie her, take the blindfold off. If she’s not had an orgasm—or, if I were the Birthday Girl, not had as many as I want—you can finish the game by making her beg for release as “further punishment.” Satisfy her orally or manually.
If she is so inclined, take it higher. Tell her to lie face down if she is ready for further punishment.
If I were the Birthday Girl, I would roll over onto my stomach, grind my clitoris against the mattress, push my ass up in the air, taunting the master. He would respond to the challenge by telling me to hold my ass high and giving me five good lash strokes, escalating in force, to that place where the ass meets the top of the thigh—a very tender place indeed—leaving me trembling and on the edge of falling into that ultimate pain/pleasure so deep and dark and overwhelming. By the time he put down his lash and pushed the head of his penis against my anus, I would be reduced to grunts and whimpers.
- You can give your submissive up to five strokes to her back, ass or back of the thighs. Draw out her exquisite arousal by making her count each stroke. Now pleasure her.
If I were the Birthday Girl, I would want his cock in my ass. (In case your submissive might have similar desires, suggest she do her anal prep before the game begins.) With every thrust, he would mark his possession of me; and I would revel in that. I would thrill to the sounds of his balls slapping my pussy as he pushed every inch of his cock into my ass.
Afterward, I might be a little embarrassed at my submission—but I would masturbate to the memory of it for several nights in a row, until I fell asleep exhausted with my hand in my pussy.
Are you ready to play The Birthday Girl Game?
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