What is truly shocking about the Congressman Anthony Weiner Penis-gate story?
The utter banality of it all.
Most erect penises look more or less alike and aren’t that thrilling in still shots without some prior knowledge of the life support system attached to them. I am probably a greater admirer of the male organ than the average woman—once I even had an affair with the cock alone or maybe pretended to myself that I did—but I want to feel the strength of a man’s arms around me, nuzzle his chest hair and find the special non-genital places where he likes to be touched. I want to get to his penis by way of a luscious seductive route starting with the big head first—and to care enough about him to make his experience of me outstanding. If he is nothing but a penis, I have better vibrators.
Weiner friended a lot of pretty young women on Facebook, sent them cliched photos graduating quickly from the haughty face, bare muscled chest shots down to the bulge in his Calvins only—and finally (presumably) the naked erect penis. Several of the women have released or leaked his texts and tweets to the media. They include this exchange with a Las Vegas woman:
He bragged about his penis size—“you’d be surprised how big.”
“hard for me?” she asked; he replied, “you like me big and fat.”
Bored husbands by the thousands, frequently on Facebook under pseudonyms, often listing marital status as “separated” while on their real FB accounts they post photos of their wives and declare their love for them—by the thousands these men have followed the photo exposure protocol and are writing the same sext words to some “dirty girl” right now. That is the sorry state of seduction in 21st Century Cyberworld. Once Don Juan walked on the earth; now there is Anthony Weiner.
The Congressman gets no points for creative imagination—and would lose overall points if he had any for a devastating lack of charm. I’ve seen lizards in lighted tanks with more charisma. You’d think a man involved in the sex scandal of the moment would possess a trace of sex appeal, wouldn’t you? But, no.
Why do women respond to the blatant yet bland full frontal nudity of men like this?
Many don’t, of course, but enough do to inflate the friends lists of ordinary men and elected officials too. Generally, women don’t get aroused by photos of unknown male genitals (while men generally do get aroused by photos of unknown female genitals.) I asked several SexyPrime readers who confessed to carrying on flirtatious online correspondences, the men begging for nude photos, the women—expectations so low they drag the ground like belly fat on a Dachshund--saying, Ok, sure, send it if you like.
The men who send their penis shots believe that they have special equipment; and the women will go crazy with desire for it on first sight.
They believe the last part because apparently they get their sex education from porn, HBO’s “Real Sex”, Cinemax after midnight, and phone sex ads. In porn these days, dropping trousers is the seduction phase. Women who study the same great thinkers know their lines.
Ooohhh, yeah, Baby, that’s so big, I’m so hot for you. I want that big cock in me now.
Men (and when I say “men” I don’t mean all men—just all men who send unrequested penis shots to women they don’t know)—those men will believe anything as long as it’s positive. That haughty look in their profile pics comes from believing they have a penis so mighty and powerful, a woman wants it on first photo sighting. They think putting it out there is sexy—but they don’t call this internet game “sex" or consider it cheating.
Neither do I. The women I randomly quizzed—and the therapists offering up their opinions to the media—say Yes, it’s “sex” and Yes, it’s cheating. Really? Show me the sex here. The Sexy Beast describes it as "interactive porn. The thrill is getting the new pretty girl to talk dirty and praise your cock."
I can see how women are confused about what is sex. Porn has been greatly reduced to tight shots of penis ramming into mouth, anus, vagina. The actresses want it—sans benefit of seduction and foreplay, even when sometimes they are gagging on the driving penis or whimpering in real pain from the jackhammer drilling in their ass. That is Sex—but isn’t it more about the male fantasy of the penis than the woman or the real penis involved? Then why not call this cyber posturing—again, more about the male fantasy of the penis than the woman or the real penis involved—Sex Too or maybe Sex Lite?
I, however, call it The New Sordid Seduction, the (lack of) mental foreplay that could easily lead to a fast round of Let’s Make Sex(Porn) should the two synchronize elaborate travel plans, but probably they won’t. The game with dirty words and cameras has a limited shelf life, the appeal of one pretty young woman growing dimmer with the excitement of tweeting his penis to the next and the next and the next. Would Weiner have connected with the six women he admits to “having relationships with”? It was what it was.
But he tantalized the Las Vegas prospect by saying that he would gag her with his big penis before giving it to her in the usual place. His use of the word “gag” horrified his friend Kirsten Powers, who’d defended him, at his request, on TV while he was still lying to his friends as well as the American public. She’s furious with him now. (Friend Jon Stewart took it hard too.) Who can blame her? In calling for his resignation Wednesday, she labeled him a “misogynist” because he said he wants to gag a woman with his penis. But does that make him a misogynist or just prove him to be a man with no erotic imagination, taking all his cues on how to seduce and perform from the Usual Suspects Source List?
Is he merely a product of his times in which sexual passion has been reduced to tight penetration shots, a man with no charm, no smarts about sex and especially seduction—and likely no way to hold onto a beautiful wife who may never forgive him?
I think that’s who he is, a sad little man, unable to pull off a torrid affair if his soul depended on it—and maybe it does now.
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