“We don’t need to see sex as spiritual in order to see it as transcendent,” Greta Christina, “Why Atheists Have Great Sex” on Alternet.
Kimmie, Carolyn and five other people sent me the link to this article. Does that give you a clue to where I stand on organized religion? I respect the devout church/mosque/temple-goers—but so often they, especially the Christians in my experience, are not respectful of non-believers. It's their way or the road to hell. Guess who else castigates the atheist/humanist/skeptic?
As Greta Christina notes, the spiritual sex wing of the sex-positive community can be equally smug and snooty about their connection to “…many varieties of Wicca, Goddess worship, shamanism, Tantra, astrology, chi, chakras, belief in a collective metaphysical consciousness, and other forms of New Age belief and magical thinking.”
I have been cornered at Sex World events and private parties by the New Devout, especially those middle-age women, the self-described “goddesses”. They are as evangelical as born-again Christians—with an added pitch: They experience spiritual sex—a higher, more “intimate”, superior kind of “soul touching”—while we non-believers are doing it on a lower plane.
I refer them to neuroscience studies of the female orgasm. An orgasm is an orgasm, lighting up the same areas of every woman’s brain, in the fMRI machine. As these studies become more well-known, they should end the vaginal-vs-clitoral debates (but probably won’t.) More to the point of this topic, the science also shows us that Jesus freaks, goddesses, and non-believers share the same brain orgasm map. We read (or experience) the map differently, depending on the state of our consciousness, something created by the brain in ways we know not how (yet.)
Greta Christina makes an impassioned argument, beginning with this—
“The materialist view says that there is no supernatural world…only the physical world. All those things that seem non- physical — thoughts, feelings, choices, selfhood, transcendent sexual ecstasy, consciousness in general — are actually products of the brain, and of the brain’s interactions with the rest of the body and the rest of the world. We don’t yet know exactly how this works — the science of neuropsychology is still in its infancy — but the overwhelming evidence we have so far is that this seems to be so.
"And to me, this is not a downer. This is magnificent.”
Read her essay. It is brilliant, beautiful and transcendently erotic in celebration of physical sex. Who says atheists have no “soul?”
In other sex science news, researchers in Germany and the University of Cambridge, UK, studied the shapes and sizes of facial features in chimps, gorillas and other primates and concluded that women’s preference for handsome faces over brute force influenced the evolution of the male face.
In the article, “Handsome Men Evolved Thanks to Picky Women” by Andy Coghlan in The New Scientist, Eleanor Weston, a member of the team at the Research Insitute Senckenberg in Frankfurt, says it’s all in the teeth and cheekbones.
“Prominent canine teeth which still signify a male's dominance and fighting ability in many primates like baboons and gorillas, may have been replaced by less aggressive teeth and looks.
“Broader faces with prominent cheekbones, not unlike those of contemporary movie stars including Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom and Viggo Mortensen, were picked preferentially by females.”
Well, thank the evolutionary gods for our picky ancestors.
And, finally, a survey reported by the UK’s The Telegraph in “Moody men ‘more attractive’ than happy men" tells us that women prefer moody men—while men are drawn to smiling women. The ladies of “The View” weren’t entirely in agreement with these conclusions. I’m not either. I like men with the ability to dance on the edge of the volcano while smiling, making a challenge look easy. Life is too short for moping around. Did James Bond mope?
“Happy men don’t get the girl,” the survey says.
The authors of the study seem to equate “moody” with both strong and powerful and “Bad Boys.” Generally, I have found that strong, powerful men know how to win people over to their ideas—and that requires a degree of charm and some people skills. The Bad Boys I’ve known had similar abilities. I associate “moody” with under-achieving, pretentious artistic types.
Read the article and tell me what you think.
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