I love that you have so many sex science questions, I can’t get to them all in Monday’s Ask Auntie Sue where they have to fight for space with big issues like, "Should I go to bed with an obnoxious man?" (I advised: NO.)
So here is the update on the Big Sex Science questions consuming readers, like why you can get Black Viagra in Mexico but not the U.S., how Cialis is overtaking Viagra, and the truth about the new Staxyn (just Levitra in a cool black package)—and more.
The Big Three ED Drugmakers Tweak Their Products
A California reader asked why he can buy “black Viagra” across the border in Mexico but not in his home city of San Diego. Viagra Jet (its proper name) is simply a chewable version of Viagra, the little blue pill. You will probably see it in the U.S. next year if Pfizer is unsuccessful in keeping generic Viagra off the market for another year. But should they succeed, you likely won’t see Jet here—instead look for it in other “developing world” markets on your next jaunts to India or Thailand.
In anticipation of the cheaper generic versions arriving at pharmacies soon, the makers of the Big Three ED Pills are tweaking their product to convince you that it’s new and different and better than the old model to justify the expense of choosing it over generic. Levitra’s “new” product called Staxan, packaged in elegant black, fizzes and dissolves on the tongue without water—for the man who doesn’t want his partner to know. But Cialis is stealing the market share with their “new” pills, different dosages of the classic C, packaged as Everyday Pills and “The Weekender,” which keeps the man in that willing and able to perform state (not painfully erect) for 36 hours.
While the tweaks to the pills are nice little improvements in delivery and/or packaging, they do not represent dramatic product changes, but rather marketing strategies. Interesting how discretion seems to be the new market buzzword. Tell me that is a sign that people will stop Tweeting the contents of their stomachs three times a day.
Yes, Lubrication Can Finally Be Discrete Too
Some women feel that vaginal dryness is the female equivalent of male Erectile Disorder (ED)—the indicator that sex parts are showing their age. Others fear that dryness gives away another secret: They are slow to arouse. These women don’t want a new partner to know they moisturize in the pleasure zone.
“I don’t want to haul around a big tube of KY just in case I get lucky,” a fortysomething woman wrote, “but I need a little help with the moistness down there, at least until we really get started fucking.”
Yes, the economy-sized bottle of your favorite lube may not travel well. You can buy a variety bag of sample lube packets at Babeland. Or you can pour a
“discrete” amount of my favorite Trust oil into one of those little bottles you transfer hair and cosmetic items into when you fly. (Your check-out code for receiving a discount is “sexyprime.”)
Trust is truly discrete because it doesn’t leave behind a sticky residue. It melts into your skin—your skin anywhere—making it softer, plumper, more moist. I swear it stimulates natural lubrication in my vagina. Let me know if you have that experience too. By the way, no matter how young you are, Trust should be part of your sex kit. Manual stimulation always feel better with slightly lubed fingers. (Unlike genitals, fingers don't produce lubrication.)
Another product that should be part of your daily moisturing regime from perimenopause (as young as late thirties) onward: Replens (or the generic version) which is designed to stimulate moisture replenishment with regular use.
The Cautionary Note: Restoring the Parts to High Function Doesn’t Mean You Will Get a Partner Who Isn’t So Crazy, He’s Probably Psychotic
Now that we’ve created, with the help of science, a hard penis and a moist vagina—will sexual imprinting bring them together or push them apart?
Sexual imprinting fascinates me as well as my readers. Our sexual tastes are at least partially imprinted on very youthful brains; and once they are, it's damn near impossible to attract someone who isn't programmed to respond to you. After that post ran, I had dozens of questions from men and women wanting to know: How can I get the details of my partner’s early sexual imprinting?
People, just ask. Don’t your lovers enjoy talking about themselves and sharing sex secrets? Ask what they remember about early arousal triggers. Many of you were fascinated—as again I was—by the post-50 year old man whose sexual initiation was at the hands of a kinky sixty year-old women when he was only fourteen. Frederick E. is into foot worship and being spanked—and claims to have been with only one woman younger than him in his life. My brief involvement with him on a work project taught me that he also behaves like a bratty (and omigod whiny) teen boy determined to get his needs met every which way he can, whether the woman is willing or not. Ironically, he claims he is very skilled as a Cassanova (or Pick-up Artist) and that he has five women on the line now, more “waiting in the wings” and meets a new volunteer every week. Really, Freddie, really? Hard to believe—and, if true, a sad commentary on the desperate loneliness of American women.
He describes his devotion to the older woman, Elva’s, feet and his excitement at being spanked by her. In fact, he never speaks so lovingly of any woman as he does of his own ass being “properly” spanked.
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