Frenchwomen have great lingerie. As we learned from reading my pal Jamie Cat Callan’s book, Frenchwomen Never Sleep Alone, their bras and panties are matched sets. (She also says the ladies are apt to have a sensual surprise for their man when they undress, "like wearing a red silk slip under their all black, very chic and simple ensemble.") The current favorite panty styles are lace boy shorts or lace deep Vs with the tops of the V striking the hipbones. No thongs. (Thongs are so over.) Frenchwomen buy expensive camisoles and tap pants and teddys in luscious silk and lace, as high in quality as they can afford. (In general, Frenchwomen buy fewer wardrobe pieces, be it teddys or pencil skirts, in higher quality of fabric and cut, than American women do—and then spend more money to have them tailored to fit perfectly. I love the racks in Paris shops, not crowded like ours, each offering something special. The classic teddy colors are black, white, ivory and the palest shade of pink, like the fading glow of orgasm on the cheeks.
Some teddys are flirty and almost shy, with little shorts; others, like the one pictured, rise high and expose the globes of the ass—and it is these globes on which we focus now, followed perhaps by attention paid to the tender anal opening. The object is not anal intercourse, but rather creating pleasurable experiences for her in that part of her body.
This is Buttocks Play—with the occasional naughty fingers or anal wands drifting pleasurably astray. NO pressure.
- First, ask her to lie on her tummy so you can give her a back rub. Talk sexy to her about how much you love her body, including her buttocks. After you have worked down her back, lightly massage the “small” of the back, the little area at the base of the spine, with small, circular strokes.
- Now move further down, widening those circular strokes on her buttocks, hips and upper thighs, applying slightly more pressure but not too much.
- Take her buttocks into both hands and squeeze lightly. Gently knead her flesh.
- Stop and kiss that opulent flesh between squeezes and kneading movements. Lick her buttocks with broad, flat strokes of your tongue.
- Starting at the bottom, press your thumbs firmly into the flesh of her buttocks. Kiss the tissue surrounding your powerful thumb.
- Use that thumb in the smooth upward running motion, following the curve of her ass up. Pay attention to her responses. If she tenses, pulls away or flinches—too much pressure. Now go back to the start of the curve and move your thumbs slightly further apart and create another curved line. Repeat several times with each curve wider than the last. Imagine that you are creating a pattern not unlike the waves of orgasm she will experience a little later.
- Ask her if she would like you to move a finger or two—or a sex toy—inside, merely to tickle and tease, to stimulate and arouse.
- Use your finger(s) or anal wands (or anal beads for a new thrilling sensation) to explore gently the tender tissues just inside her anal opening.
- Use the (well-lubed) wand in an up and down motion simulating intercourse that is respectful of delicate anal tissues. Or insert the beads slowly, one at a time. The beads trigger contraction in the sphincter muscle which can trigger orgasm. Or with one finger (lubed and protected by a finger cot), move in a gentle circular motion, touching the sides of her rectum wall.
Remember, of course, not to touch her vagina with fingers or toys that have just come out of her anus.
She should be feeling warm, yummy and hungry for you—so make love to her, but smart man, don’t push against her anus again tonight. Let her want it.
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