“If a couple have to use sex toys, something is wrong,” a young husband in his early thirties told me.
Shocking but true: Some couples—and often the younger ones—regard using sex toys (unless one is alone and desperate) as taboo. In their minds, vibrators are for aging spinsters or perhaps a faithful wife when her husband is out of town. What limited imaginations these people have! My mission is to help them open their minds.
I lectured him soundly about his sex toy misconceptions and un-adventurous erotic spirit and sent him off to BN to buy a copy of Tristan Taormino’s new book The Big Book of Sex Toys (Quiver Books) and then to Babeland to shop. Tristan is a talented writer, sex educator and adult film director who also teaches sex and relationship workshops all over the world. I am one of her biggest fans—and I promise you will find this book (and her other books and DVDs) more than worth your money. Put this one on the night table next to The Sex Bible and The Sex Bible for Women.
Her new book teaches everything you need to know about toys, including how to pick the toy that matches your mood or desire—and also how to incorporate them into sex play. Love you, Tristan. Keep up the good work!