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“Taboo? That’s a perfume, isn’t it? Or a men’s fragrance? Oh, you mean sex stuff that’s forbidden. Yeah, I’ve heard about some of those,” white married man in his forties.
“Taboos? No. I have a set of personal rules I sometimes break,” a “hot Latino babe, 28.”
SexyPrime readers aren’t pushing the sexual envelope. That envelope is open. Of the 312 respondents to the SexyPrime Taboo Sex Survey, a mere 25 made censorial comments as their answers to some questions. (“…anal sex is disgusting”, “people who use whips should be locked up”, “Isn’t group sex against the law? It should be.”) Most of you said, I like this, I don’t like (or have an inclination to try) that. Exactly. I don’t eat sushi, but I don’t judge you if you do. Once again, three-fourths of respondents were age 22-44—but two of my most articulate and adventurous regular survey-takers are men in their fifties, one white and one African American. Overall, the answers to the questions were so similar that breaking them down into sections laced liberally with quotes—my usual survey report style—didn’t seem like the most interesting way to cover the topic.
A few observations and conclusions:
- 33% said they have “personal rules” not taboos—with the number one rule being “No sex with bosses or co-workers,” a rule that is violated every day, of course. Other rules concerned protecting their partners from discovering an affair, using condoms and codes of conduct for BDSM or group sex play.
- African American women reported more sex taboos, including anal sex, interracial sex, and swallowing.
- Golden showers is a turn-off for most.
- Women overwhelmingly said: no sex in another woman’s bed, no sex in the kid’s beds.
- Forty percent of white men said they had paid for sex at least once—typically on business trips. Twenty percent of black men, thirty percent of Asian-Americans and only 10% of Latinos had. Fifty to sixty percent of male respondents from Europe, India, Australia, the Virgin Islands and Africa have paid for sex. No women in the survey had—though one woman said, “If you are Sugar Mama to your man, you are paying for sex; you just don’t call it that.”
- Only three white women admit to having sex with a relative. {“But reading about your experience with your distant cousin has convinced me to pay more attention to the cousins at the next wedding.” “Maybe my Catholic upbringing comes in a little here but I do love incest erotica even if I’ve never met a cousin (or other close relative) that seemed to turn me on. Maybe I just have not-all-that-attractive relatives—and maybe I’m a bit of a frog myself.”)
- Twenty-five percent—mostly white women and black men— have had interracial sex. But another 60% said it wasn’t taboo. (“I haven’t had the opportunity yet, but ladies of color, I’m a young white man in Iowa who would be very receptive to your charms.”) Eighty percent of African American women said: Yes, it is a taboo.
- Group sex? Threesomes? BDSM? A quickie in a public rest room? Not taboo, just a matter of personal preferences. Extramarital affair? Younger partner after divorce? Sexually liberating experiences—especially for women. Readers, is nothing dirty anymore?
Several readers wrote about anal sex experiences that turned messy. (The two included in the posts below are funnier than the famous Tucker Max story.) That honesty is appreciated. (If you have anal intercourse after a big meal, you may be sorry.) Anal sex looks so good in porn because the women had one or more enemas the night before, ate nothing before going on set, squirted anal syringes of lubricant up their anuses and wore a butt plug prior to the action. Once again I say: Men, you just don’t roll her over and “slip it in” the way the actors appear appear to do. If you have missed the special Taboo Sex Week stories, here they are:
Sleeping With My Cousin—and Other Great
It’s (Almost) All Good The Big Book of Sex Toys For
The Rape Fantasy: Every Woman’s Taboo Fantasy
“It Started With The Shared Admiration for ‘The Story of O’”
Do Black Women Have More Sex Taboos?—A Reader Says “Yes,” But She Has Broken Them
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