"Somebody gave me a great big vibe for my birthday," Selena said. We were enjoying Happy Hour at Maxie's Grill (19th Street between Irving and Park.) She wanted to know: What's with vibes? "Really, it was a battery-operated dildo," she explained. "I didn't like it. I don't think I am the vibe type."
At 27, Selena is right inside the vibrator's prime demographic. Women in their twenties and thirties are now buying more vibes than Baby Boomer women, the original vibe babes. Selena, get your share.
"I would never suggest that a woman new to vibes start off with a battery-operated big dildo," I said. "Unless you're fingering your clit while you use it, you probably won't have an orgasm. It's like intercourse without the joy of a man's body."
She needs a toy designed for coy little kittens, whose clits need to be tenderly coaxed out to play. And the choices, the choices! Go to Babeland and look for external vibes, including contour vibes that you can hold in the palm of your hand, little vibes designed like lipsticks or sporting fun names like Pocket Rocket, finger vibes that expand the erotic power of your finger--oh, so many choices of toys to hold against your clit until is sings its own song. For Selena, I advise SaSi, the intelligent vibe that creates the sensations of cunnilingus only better, unless your partner is an oral genius. AND SaSi remembers your responses for next time. (Can you say that about your partner?)
"You won't want to stop at purchasing a single vibe," I told her. "Once you've fallen in love with that one, you will begin to wonder what different sensual delights another vibe might deliver."
Women who start with the bullet eventually crave a penetrating vibe and find their way to the Rabbit, enticed by its triple stimulus action: G-spot, clitoris, cervix. Why not? Why be monogamous to your vibrator?
But some women are. Sue, one of my favorite readers, is a Boomer Babe who swears by her Hitachi Magic Wand.
"It works for me," she says of the big power machine that I associate with Cougars. "I don't want to try anything else."
Yes, it works for me too. I can go from zero to orgasm in sixty seconds when i flip the switch on my big tool. When I want/need a quick orgasm before running out the door to a meeting or falling asleep after a long day--that's my vibe.
When I want to play, there are so many other ways to go. More than a lover or two is probably too time-consuming for most of us. You can never have too many vibes. They wait patiently in drawers and on shelves and perform on demand.
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