Maybe you still believe in the fairy tale happy ending and maybe you are inclined to believe: The prince will come, probably too soon; and you may not come at all.
Richard Anton Diaz, founder of Sexy Spirits, a not-for-profit sex education center in Manhattan, has created the perfect happy ending for every woman. He teaches men how to become Orgasm Providers for women. They perform this erotic touch service selflessly. It's not about him, Babe; it's about you.
Born in New York City of Columbian parents, Anton is the quintessential Latin man. Smoldering gaze, lean, taut body, intensely sexual but not in a threatening way. With his ex-wife as his partner, he is a former world champion of ballroom dancing, a certified Taoist teacher, a one-time "lounge lizard" who briefly became a "Tantra wimp" and now teaches men how to be gods to their goddesses.
He began to figure out sex, he says, when he realized that he had to let his wife "become the leading power" in their dance. Shortly thereafter, they won the world championship.
Next big sex life lesson:
"I was fucking my wife and she said, 'You're not hard,'" he recalls. "I couldn't believe it. We had sex every day and I usually had one or two women on the side, some she knew about, some she didn't. I was always hard. The next morning, I woke up without an erection for the first time in my life.
"I didn't know who I was without a hard cock."
The doctor he consulted told him that's what happens to men in their forties and suggested a psychiatrist to help him through this mid-life crisis.
"I said I would rather put a gun to my head and shoot myself."
He went to a bookstore and found a book that had the words "health, sex, longevity" in the subtitle--and that subtitle changed his life. Adapting dietary changes, studying the Taoist method of conserving sexual energy, working his way through Tantra--"which makes men feel guilty about being horn dogs"--Anton arrived eventually at something entirely his own: the power of sensual, erotic touch focused entirely on the woman to dramatically change and improve women's and men's sex lives and their relationships. (Yes, his dick did come back to life.)
His course on providing orgasms has five levels. Men sign up for it because "They think they will have unlimited access to pussy," he jokes. So many women volunteer that he has to turn them away.
His first message to men: "Women own the sexual terrain now. But they still want us to step up as men. I don't teach men to provide orgasms as servants or wimps--but as gods."
Women have started asking for "happy endings" when they pay for a massage--something men have been doing forever. Whether she's in a relationship or not, a woman wants to be touched and stroked and fondled to orgasm, at least now and then. The man who knows how to do that without making her feel reciprocity is immediately required is a god.
Go to the Sexy Spirits website and learn more. Additionally, in the weeks ahead, I will observe and report on one of these "happy ending" experiences.
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