Two of my favorite Kittens (young women under 35) have been testing sex toys for me. They prefer their toys on the small side, quiet and yet colorful.
Kitten A, 25 and engaged, had never experienced an orgasm when she wrote to me two weeks ago. First, I taught her the basics of my O Loop technique--a no-fail orgasm technique which you can learn in my book, The Orgasm Loop. She was beginning to get the O Loop down and was thisclose to an O when we went toy shopping together at a Babeland store in Manhattan. ("As for the G spot," she said dismissively, "I don't believe it exists.") She bought a tiny and inexpensive Silver Bullet vibe
and, at my prodding, the more costly Gigi, a G spot vibe.
How did those vibes work out for her?
"Awesome," she admits. "I had my first orgasm with the Silver Bullet. I massaged around my clit and all over my vagina and even my nipples until I felt really hot, then I turned it on the clit alone. The intensity of the middle speed was just right. I felt like Goldilocks, not too soft and not too hard, please. I couldn't believe the sensations--just like women describe them. It was so intense. I was shaking and crying afterward."
It took me a few days to persuade her to take Gigi out of the box and go on her personal G spot quest. But she did.
"I found it!" she yelled into my cell phone. "The G spot is real! I am female sexual empowerment explorer!"
She didn't reach orgasm on the first try as she had with the Silver Bullet. I encouraged her to add the fingers of the hand not holding Gigi to her erotic play, stroking her clit and massaging the area around it in circular fashion. And she came.
Kitten B, 30, just out of a longterm relationship "with Mr. Wrong" and "playing a bi game", wrote to ask me, "Why are you always telling women to use vibes? I've tried them and don't really like them. The only way I come masturbating is in the Jacuzzi--with my clit pushed against a water jet." I encouraged her to try again with a waterproof Laya Spot vibe.
She took her bright red Laya Spot into the Jacuzzi with her, turned on the jets and warmed herself up in the usual fashion. Then she lay back and let the vibe do the work of the water jet.
"Wow! What a great orgasm," she says. "This vibe gives me a more textured and nuanced water experience. I feel a variety of sensations as the orgasm builds and peaks. With the water jet, it's one big slam/dunk. I love Layla Spot."
Next for Kitten A: Introducing her vibes to her fiance.
Next for Kitten B: A dry land vibe.
(Two other Kittens are also testing vibes and promise a report soon.)
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Is there anyone out there in the SexyPrime community besides me, who were experiencing orgasms before they were 10 years old?
My heart breaks for those who've had to wait to feel orgasmic pleasure, but I'm sure glad they got there!
Kitten A and Kitten B, welcome the higher state of sexual bliss that you deserve... ;)
Posted by: Tigress | August 04, 2008 at 07:55 PM
That's a good question!
I'd love to get some responses from women who had their first orgasm at an early age. I was 13, sitting at my desk, doing homework, playing with my bra strap--and no doubt fantasizing, though I can't remember for sure. Suddenly I had an orgasm from the breast stimulation. I didn't even know what had happened. I had to ask my (16 years) older sister Ginny. Luckily, she was a good person to consult on sex. Her answers were always matter-of-fact and not overlaid with morality lessons. No shaming!
Posted by: Susan Crain Bakos | August 05, 2008 at 08:26 AM
I ordered The Orgasm Loop today. I can't wait to get it!
Gotta know what it's all about. I have great orgasms, but hey, there is always room for improvement, right? ;)
Posted by: Tigress | August 05, 2008 at 08:14 PM
Absolutely!
When people say to me, "I know all about sex," I reply:
I've been researching and writing on sex for over two decades; and I am still learning new things.
O Loop will take your orgasm to greater heights. You can come longer, stronger, more often, in multiples, have extended and whole body orgasms.
Let me know about your experiences!
S
Posted by: Susan Crain Bakos | August 06, 2008 at 06:24 AM