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“She was the best sex I ever had, but I haven’t slept with
her in five years,” the fortysomething man said to his younger male companions
after a lovely blonde left their group at Maxie's Grill (19th
between Irving and Park.) “She
wanted the Big C.”
Waiting for my pal Dom Rose, I was working at the bar. I glanced up from the laptop screen to
see the alpha male form a C with first finger and thumb and slowly closing the
circle. Loved the graphic.
“Commitment.
The Ring,” he said. “I
couldn’t do it. I knew I would
cheat on her. I cheated on her
while we having the best sex I ever had.”
The other two have girlfriends who are pushing for the C,
the closed circle. They agonized
over their dilemma. She’s almost perfect, 98% of what I
want, she’ll be a good mother, but I am 25 and we’ve been together five years…can
I stay with her for another fifty? And: I’m in the same place,
the 30 year old said, Will I ever find
anyone better? But I’m not ready
to settle down.
The alpha male introduced the subject of Tiger Woods, the
new poster boy for cheating without class. He talked numbers—how many girls, how big is Tiger’s dick,
how many women could he bang in a day. The younger men wondered if Tiger’s wife was cold in bed, but
they wanted to talk about their relationships. As my entrée into the discussion. I told them I write
about sex. They bought me a drink. The 30 year old had ordered The Sex
Bible on Amazon before Rebecca, the pretty young bartender, poured the wine.
“What percentage of men do you think cheat?” Alpha asked.
“Various surveys report differing numbers, but at least 60%,
probably more like 75%,” I said.
Thirty asked, “That includes men who cheat once and men who
cheat all the time?”
“Yes.”
Alpha: “More
like 80-85%.”
He told me how Cialis enables him to come more than once a
night and described the quality of his erections while the other guys talked
about their relationships. Rebecca rolled her eyes. Two IT guys from Denver joined our
discussion. The younger one, 35,
said his girlfriend wanted a ring for Christmas. Alpha left.
The three Men In Relationships talked.
“What’s happened to men?” I asked Rebecca.
“They talk about relationship and I want to talk about cocks.”
“I know,” she said, rolling her eyes again.
The older man from Denver, in his 40s, looked at SexyPrime
on my laptop. He was married, did
cheat, is happily divorced, not interested in talking about any of it. When Dom walked in, I pointed to the
three guys and said, “All they want to talk about is their relationships. I can’t get them to talk about sex.”
He glanced at them, laughed and said, “Those guys will never
talk about their dicks.”
Are white men under forty the new girls?